In these modern times, a woman needs to go after the things she wants. This includes that hunk you keep running into when you go out with your friends.
If you feel you’ve sent out all the signals you can. but he’s still not getting it, you’ll need to take action. Don’t feel like you’ve got to wait for him to make the first move.
A great relationship may pass you by that way. It’s possible he’s feeling it too, but maybe he’s just as apprehensive as you are.
You’ll never know unless you try. And a momentary rejection is better than a lifetime of wondering what if.
#1. Take the bull by the horns
This is a tough one, especially if you’re inclined to be introverted. You need to come up with a reason to approach him and strike up a conversation.
If you feel you must, rehearse what you would say in such a situation.
Don’t make it too scripted. You’ll come across as awkward or insincere. Will he come back if you do that?
Even though you may be dying of embarrassment, you need to look cool and confident. Get yourself into the same vicinity as him and engage him with a question.
Introduce yourself to him and say something like, “You look like you’ve had a good day. Did something special happen?” Straight away, you’ve shown you’re interested in him.
#2. Put yourself out there
As the conversation progresses, he may ask you a question or two. Answer honestly, but don’t take over the conversation.
If he asks if you’re single, that’s a good sign. Don’t ruin it by giving a long-winded overview of all your past relationships. It’s a sure-fire way to make him lose interest.
If he doesn’t ask if you’re single, you can still put that information out there in an indirect way. That way, he knows you’re available. Guys hate engaging in a conversation only to find out the girl is in a relationship.
#3. Retain an air of mystery
Don’t lay everything about yourself on the table too soon. Guys like the pursuit.
So, even though you may initiate the conversation, give him the chance to do a bit of chasing.
Leave him wanting to get to know you better. This is not the same as playing hard to get. It’s just about keeping him guessing about a few things.
#4. Don’t be afraid to show you’re into him
If you exchange numbers, don’t be afraid to call him. Some good guys find it hard to take the initiative to phone you.
Don’t sit waiting by the phone. If you feel you like this guy enough and want to get to know him, go for it. Phone him or text him and tell him you enjoyed your conversation. Tell him you don’t often meet guys as nice as he is.
This again is a reminder to him that you want to get to know him. If you’re getting a good vibe from his responses, suggest going out sometime.
#5. Show an interest in what interests him
Should you get a chance to see him again, ask about his interests. They may be wildly different from your own.
Don’t let that deter you. See it as an opportunity rather than an obstacle. Don’t pretend to share his interests. When he finds out you don’t, he’ll think you’re fake.
Rather ask him to explain them to you. Make it clear that you’d love the opportunity to explore them.
Don’t tell him you love football although you’ve never watched a single game. Rather say, “I don’t know much about football at all.
But I’d love to learn about it.” You’re giving him the opportunity to ask you on another date. He’ll like the fact that you want to find out more about him and what makes him tick.
#6. Make an effort with your appearance, and let him know it’s for him
Don’t be too obvious here. Go to the extra effort of doing your hair, make-up, and choosing a flattering outfit.
He’ll appreciate it and compliment you on it. This is the time to come across quite casually about the compliment. Don’t say, “It’s just for you” in so many words. Be subtle about it.
#7. Don’t go ‘bunny boiler’ on him
If you pressure a guy with too many phone calls and demands, he’ll find it a turn-off. But if you want things to go further, give him subtle indications of this.
Remember, you’re getting to know one another. You shouldn’t already be planning the wedding. That’s a recipe for disaster. Don’t monopolize him and try to insert yourself into the center of his life.
If you’ve played your cards right, he’ll want to pursue a relationship with you. But let him do it at his own pace. A fish decides when to bite, not the fisherman (or woman)!
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