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So please, check the Table of Contents here below and click to navigate to your preferred section.
(Tip: If you just want quick sexting examples to send and turn him on, just click and navigate to the “Examples of Sexting Sexy Messages For Him” section)
So ladies, now that we have the basics covered, just grab your phone, copy paste these seductive texts and start sexting!
Keep your fingers ready to press the send button and also speak your own language of sex with your own sexting examples.
These are used to test the waters and see what happens when you send them!
Sexting Flirters is like getting him engaged in a conversation but not in an extremely explicit level. In other words, being a little naughty but not very specific.
Use the right sexy messages and it will certainly build up the sexual connection, turn him on and get him hard for you.
As your relationship with a guy progresses, you can introduce different erotic messages, and dirty talk techniques to keep things hot and steamy in and out of the bedroom. Some great examples you’ll find below:
Spicy sexting is like engaging in dirty sexual conversation for the purpose of sexual gratification. In other words, trying to raise the heat and build up the anticipation for the main event.
If you ever feel like things are getting the slightest bit stale. Before it's too late you need to discover that it’s time to add some hot sexting ideas onto your menu to revive your sex life and feel desired and wanted again.
These hot, dirty, explicit sexy sex messages are only to be used when you already have a sexting code with your man. They would come out weird if you use them in the beginning of your sexting experience.
It’s morning and you are still probably sleepy. Gotcha. Don’t panic, use these made for you morning sexy texts to have him thinking of you all day long.
In order to master this incredibly effective technique, you must have the right combination of witty and dirty, and most importantly, you have to get the pacing right.
These dirty and sexy text messages we have for you here range from sweet to saucy (and up to NSFW!) and you can copy paste or change them up to suit your style or particular mood.
Some of these texts work great as quick little hot messages to break up the monotony of a normal day...
… While others are openings to longer, hotter conversations that will turn him on.
Bottom line, you will get the most comprehensive guide about sexting, the whys, the whats and the hows; and the best seductive text messages for him you can use in any particular situation.
Even if you’re a first-time sexter, starting a new relationship, or ultra-cautious... stay with me, and I’ll guide you step by step through the wild hot world of sexting!
If you are loving this post, then you'll also love this Powerful Video On Dirty Talking to Learn the "right words & phrases" to slowly "raise the heat" with a man & activate the pleasure sensors in HIS brain.
Quick Warning: It will teach you how to make your man scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you.
If you are interested in having a man completely obsessed with you and only you, then check out the detailed (& explicit!) Dirty Talking tutorial video here.
According to Wikipedia, sexting is sending, receiving, or forwarding sexually explicit messages, photographs, or images, primarily between mobile phones, of oneself to others.
The term was first popularized early in the 21st century and is a portmanteau of sex and texting, where the latter is meant in the wide sense of sending a text possibly with images.
In reality, texting dirty messages are like the foreplay.
Think of the sexy messages you send to him as if they were your lips kissing his neck, nibbling his earlobes, gently touching him to generate arousement.
See how he responds and go from there.
It's an incredible way to "enhance sexual communication and intimacy with your partner", says Jane Greer, PhD, a relationship expert and author of What About Me?
Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a while or you’re just starting something new, sending flirty, dirty messages is a great way to spice things up and keep them fresh.
It should be fun and sexy to use dirty talk texts to build the desire factor between you and him.
Tip: Sexting is not just for younger people, you and your partner have the capability to send sexy texts to each other if it’s something you both want to.
I get this question a lot: Why is the Dirty Talking So Tempting and Arousing To Him?
And I will answer this question right now. Please feel free to share it with your friends.
Pro Tip: Finding out why he loves when you talk dirty gives you an unfair advantage.
It’s like having powerful sexy ninja skills to make him hard in your presence.
Simple dirty talking lines can have so much power that will make you completely irresistible to him (and in this guide you will find the best dirty talking text messages)
I know you want this.
So… let’s uncover the secrets to why talking dirty drives men wild.
If you have a ladylike public persona, but behind closed doors you let explicit phrases tumble from your mouth, this contrast, this change gives him a mega-charge of excitement.
He believes that he is a special guy who has the advantage to see this naughty side of you.
Like he’s the one who motivates you to be uninhibited and that’s intoxicating to his self ego.
And even if you aren’t the pinnacle of propriety, seeing you transform into a dirty little vixen for his eyes only gives him a titillating thrill.
This heightens all of his senses and makes the whole scene more tempting and enticing for him.
When you let loose with a string of moans and screams combined with different techniques of sexy play-by-plays and dirty directives, you show him just how much you fucking LOVE what he’s doing to you.
Your unbridled expressions of bliss tell him in no uncertain terms that he’s rocking your socks.
You see, men are hard-wired in their brains to please women sexually. This goes all the way back to caveman days.
However, in the modern era, there are so many mixed signals both man and woman give that can get in the way of him knowing he’s “done his job” of satisfying your sexual needs.
The concept of Dirty talking cuts right through all the gray and speaks to him clearly.
A woman who possess the confidence and power to use dirty talk to get what she wants in bed is downright appealing and terribly seductive.
Most men are helplessly drawn to women who aren’t afraid to show their dark side and are ready to express themselves sexually.
He doesn’t have to play guessing games as to how to turn you on when you tell him exactly what you want.
And your use of dirty talk clues him in that you are far from uptight or inhibited.
A good time is in store for you both!
Excitement is such a big (BIG) turn-on for men.
In fact, excitement is consistently ranked as the #1 thing that makes a man feel like sex is awesome.
Think about it, a quiet partner can be misunderstood as a bored or distracted partner, and that can put a big damper on the sexy mood.
He ends up wondering if he’s pleasing you which can bring up insecurities for him.
When you talk dirty, not only are YOU 100% present and in the moment, it proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are enjoying yourself.
That level of engagement with what’s happening between you two confirms that he’s pleasing you at both levels, mentally and physically.
All of the above factors stimulates multiple chemicals in your man's brain and you're able to hit some of the top triggers for his sex drive.
Who knew that there was some science behind talking dirty? Right?
Of course, not every woman feels comfortable launching into dirty talk, and if that sounds like you, you are not alone.
If you’ve thought “I’m too shy to talk dirty!” or you simply want to know exactly how to talk dirty to a guy...
I have something very special for you later on in this post. It will certainly blow your mind.
All I ask is you don’t let your fears stop you from incorporating this fun technique into your sex life!
According to a survey by Cosmopolitan (point 6), sending sexts to your man when he is not expecting can be quite thrilling.
Say for instance, when he is sitting in an important meeting, buying stuff in a grocery store, standing in a queue, or playing a video game.
Sexting at an unexpected time, when the sexy message is tempting, makes things even more exciting as he wants to reply back but he can't because of the situation and the surrounding he is in.
Also, you could be together... but in a situation where there are other people near you and it’s not easy for you to rush off to have sex.
Although you need to be able to (discreetly) use your smart phones to text.
So a movie, play, or other place where people would get mad at you using your phones isn’t a great idea.
A few situations that work well are:
Those are just a few ideas...
The only important thing is that you are in a place where you can easily make eye contact and use your phones without drawing too much attention to yourselves.
Ideally, you are in the company of other people. It ups the sexual tension... and delicious torment.
The mismatch of the sexy texts you send with your partner's surroundings makes things really exciting.
Sexting everyday will spoil everything because it would become a daily routine and that’s not what you want.
You need to tame it down a little bit to keep him guessing.
Flirt with him every now and then but limit the extent of sexting and dirty texts so that your relationship doesn’t turn into something that is based only on sex.
Sometimes to spice up the relationship, the sex life and keep it moving smoothly, this sexy texts play very vital role, but it should not be dependent of it.
Sexting has to be easy and comfortable.
The seductive words and phrases you use while sexting should feel sexy, and not vulgar as sex therapist Vanessa Marin said in her interview with Refinery29.
If you're not feeling OK with the texts you're sending, that nervousness will spoil the mood and ruin the moment.
Marin also explained that starting with the lines and phrases you’re comfortable with will allow you to build up the trust and take it further with those phrases that felt awkward in the beginning.
Pro Tip: There's no need to rush. It’s sexier to start simple!
Also, giving your partner feedback, telling him that you like what he is saying can help to keep things going.
Andy Duran said in an interview with Women’s Health: "With the absence of in-person feedback, being vocal about what you’re liking is extra important".
Check this excellent video below by Adina Rivers (or keep reading if you can't play audio 😉 )
You could begin with a Starter (or Ice Breaker) Sexy Text, like:
Another idea is to compliment him on something he did recently:
Follow that up with telling him how he’s turning you on:
Tip: Remember, the amount of dirtiness of the text you send to him depends on your mood and what you feel comfortable with.
By now you’ve gotten his attention. And it’s time to get dirty and descriptive.
Tip: If he hasn’t checked his phone yet, if possible, go over to him ASAP and whisper “check your phone” in his ear. Then return to your seat.
Here are some examples of dirty texts for him that will start to spice up the conversation.
The objective now is to get him physically aroused.
To turn him on.
Then send him a variety of erotic texts, mix and match. The point is to be highly explicit.
Pro Tip: Set a certain pace here by sending a message every few minutes or so.
You don’t have to watch the clock and time it perfectly or anything.
But space them out a bit.
Get alone and get down to business!
You will both find a reason to make an early exit from wherever it is that you are (or meet somewhere if you are away)
However, sometimes you might have to endure the event until the end. The torture can be sort of delicious in itself.
When you leave and are finally alone—whether that is home, a parked car, or a nearby motel—make good on those promises and enjoy some frenzied tear-your-clothes-off sex.
Sometimes it’s easy to mix up what is a real sexy text and what is a “normal” sexual text.
Normal straight texts will not seduce a guy (unless he is already turned on).
These sentences cut the mystery and go straight to the end.
For example: “I want to have sex with you”.
This phrase is just like normal conversation between couples which doesn’t stimulate the sexual hormones.
In order to enjoy great sex with your partner you need to send sexy erotic texts to him and ignite the senses to make him feel he is part of your sexual fantasies.
Make sure to check our examples of sexy messages to send him later on in this post! We have Ice Breakers, Hot, Flirters, NSFW!, you name it.
Auto corrects are great for normal conversations... but in the heat of a sexting moment, they are not your best friend!
So make sure you proofread your dirty messages!
An unwanted auto correct can kill the mood.
Trust me, he won’t want to hear about how bad you want to be “duck” by him.
“What would you do to me?” would have an epic answer from an experienced sexter.
But maybe your man isn’t as confident (yet), or is not expecting something like that from you, and may end up in an awkward situation.
So in some cases, instead of asking open ended questions, a multiple choice is the way to go to try to engage with your guy without putting too much pressure on him.
For example: “What do you want to do after the movie today? Sushi? Ice-Cream? Come back to my place and get naked?”
It helps to think of getting into character.
What would the naughty vixen version of you say to him? Play that role and don’t censor what dirty words fly out of your mouth!
Now that you know how to sext, let’s go straight to the best and hottest sexting examples (that you can copy paste and use right now!)
Whenever you are sending sexy texts messages with sexy pictures to him, make sure your naughty texts generate attraction and mystery.
Let me explain this:
Suppose you just took a shower, came out and want to send him a hot pic of you.
You should only show a little bit of your body without exposing too much.
Show off your cleavage in the towel or expose little bit of your curve below the waist.
This will definitely push his imagination to the next level to start fantasizing about you looking fresh and hot out of the shower.
The idea behind this is to create a scene where the heat and sexual excitement builds up with little bit of flirting, naughty pictures and sexy texts.
He will likely ask for more.
But If you answer “no” to that, you will keep him thinking about you, imagining how hot and sexy you look.
According to Vogue, subtle, suggestive, tasteful photos are more effective when sexting.
One of the most crucial things to note when sending your man a sexy and dirty text message is make sure you send him short and playful messages that would allure and tempt him to reply back.
This also shows that he is keen and interested to have a conversation going via dirty text messages.
Some quick examples of dirty text messages could be:
- I am trying to work, but all I can think of is how badly I want you inside me.
- Is your cock hard right now? Reply if you can't wait to see me.
- How about body to body massage tonight?
The best ways to write a sex text messages are:
Sex text that build sexual tension in a man.
Text messages that is short but makes him hard instantly.
Texts that teases and makes him intensely horny.
Sex text thats makes him think only about you 24/7.
The best time to send sexy texts and sexually explicit words is when he is in a situation where he can't act on them.
For example, when he is a meeting, gym or at the grocery store.
Send a sexy text that will make him want to rip off your panties... but he can't, for example:
- I am trying to work, but all I can think of is how badly I want you inside me.
Dirty Text Messages not only helps to ignite the sexual sensors in his brain, but they also raise the heat and excitement of your next meeting or date.
Remember to keep things interesting by sending sexy text messages when he's least expecting them, it builds up the anticipation and also keeps things spicy between both of you.
It's really important to mix them up and surprise him. Do not sext every day or it will become a routine loosing the excitement.
Sexy texts and dirty talking lead to good sex and with good sex you end up creating good and loving memories that you can talk and linger about in future.
When relationship gets older past memories help to keep them fresh and new.
Say for example: “I like the way you use to run your hands on my hair” or “The way you use to roll your tongue on my body” or “The way I use to quiver in excitement and pleasure when you use to finger me”.
Talking of all these memories will help you make new memories and that’s the charm this little sexy texts messages could play in your love life.
I hope these sexy messages help you express the burning desire and love towards your partner in your heart.
But I would love to end this post with good a sexy note to keep things on high.“I am going to love you now, slow and sweet, but when you come, I'm going to fuck you the way I need to. The way I've been dreaming about since the moment I saw you.” - by Karen Marie Moning.
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