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How to Talk Dirty to Your Man (and Make Him Rock Hard for You)


If you are currently single, married or in a long-term relationship, this article is for you, because you must know how to talk dirty to a guy to keep the romance and juice alive in your relationship.

Learning sex talk or talking dirty to a guy or your boyfriend sharing fantasies is exciting, and using those skills in your love life can be downright intoxicating.

Dirty talking lines when used correctly, it can draw a guy to you like a powerless moth to a white-hot flame.

But when done incorrectly, it can backfire miserably.

Look, I don’t want to preach to you about your sexual choices or how to talk freaky to a man.

I am a firm believer in empowering you to enjoy your sexuality on your own terms and time table.

And dirty talk is one of those kinky ways to enhance your sexuality as a woman.

So ladies if you are ready, let's talk dirty and learn the words and phrases that drive men wild.

# Flirty (and slightly dirty talk phrases) called as attention grabbers

Stop. . .

. . . distracting me 😉

. . . turning me on, I can’t concentrate 😉

. . . filling my mind with naughty thoughts 😉

. . . thinking about me. Get back to work 😉

Mmmm.. .

. . . I am thinking some very yummy things about you

right now

. . . I keep thinking of your amazing kisses

. . .you are awfully cute, you know that?

Are you. . .

. . . blushing? You should be based on what I’m thinking


. . . rested up? I plan to exhaust you on Saturday 😉

. . . turned on like I am? Wow.

Damn.. .

. . . thoughts of you have me smiling today

. . . I am so turned on by you

. . . I can’t wait to be in bed with you

Know what?

. . . I can’t wait to feel your kisses

. . .you are one sexy boyfriend 😉

. . . I just got out of the shower. Enjoy that visual 😉

Can I just tell you. . .

. . .your arms are damn sexy

. . .you have me very turned on

. . . how good you looked the other night?

Tell me something. . .

. . . do we look good together or what?

. . .why are you so damn seductive? 😉

. . . how much are you looking forward to next time? 😉

What would you do. . .

. . . if you were here right now?

. . . if I was there with you?

. . . if we were alone right now?

I can’t stop thinking about. . .

. . . how my body responds to your touch

. . . the things I want to do to you

. . . the things I want you to do to me

. . . all of the places I could kiss you 😉

Imagine this. . .

. . .me running my fingers through your hair as we

kiss and you getting so rock hard down there.

. . .me nibbling your neck and slowly working my mouth

down your body

. . . you touching my soft skin, exploring my neck. . . shoulders. . . back. . .

I can’t wait to. . .

. . . feel your body next to mine, skin to skin. . .

. . . pounce on you when I see you! 😉

. . .have you in my bed, alone, and uninterrupted. . .

. . .make you my sexy love slave 😉

. . . run my hands over every inch of you and make you cum.

His replies may run the gamut. He might read your flirty message and be off to the races getting dirty right away.

Before you learn more about dirty talking lines and sexy phrases, here is an important concept about man and woman.

A man and a woman . . .

The man is the eagle that flies.

The woman is the nightingale that sings.

To fly is to master space.

To sing is to conquer the soul.

The man is a Temple.

The woman is the Altar.

Before the temple we uncover ourselves;

before the altar we kneel down . . .

The man is where the Earth ends.The woman where Heaven starts. —Victor Hugo

Sex and the perfect Lover takes you by the hand on the road to experience sexual pleasure and ecstasy on a permanent basis.

So you can travel that path and understand the meaning of true sexual pleasure and love. You can achieve higher clarity of mind and understanding.

Today you'll achieve mastery of love, sexual pleasure and the enlightenment of your heart.

Each step in this dirty talking phrases guide opens a door to deeper levels of sexual and mental satisfaction in you and your man.

Remember by reading this dirty sex talk guide you're not only preparing for sex, but preparing for love of your boyfriend that too for life time.

Once you have practiced all the techniques, once you have become versed in the arts of perfect love making mixed with dirty texts, you can continue on the way of the Tao to a deeper inner level and arrive at a new stage.

The realization of love combined with incredibly powerful sexual enjoyment because I believe true love cannot be completed without satisfactory sex.

One friend of mine tried out one of the above dirty talking phrases to turn her guy on - he sent her a pic of his erection.

Another friend sent this dirty text to her husband, and he launched into describing how badly he wanted to lick her pussy.

# If that happens to you, you don’t have to engage with him at that explicit level if you don’t want to.

A simple cooling sex phrases for him you can use. . .

Whoa there! Let’s save some for later 😉

Read this now - If you want to talk nasty to your boyfriend.

Oh you are so naughty 😉

Slow down mister, plenty of time for all of those activities 😉

I’ve got you really turned on huh? Naughty me 😉

And then let him know that you have to get back to work or take a call or leave for an appointment.

Something to end the conversation. He also may be a little uncertain how to respond, too.

So if his reply is sweet, keep things closer to the PG-level for now.

How to create a sext-starter - The best dirty talking lines to use on your boyfriend.

If I were a woman I would start out with a playful sex talk text that begs for a response. If you were here. . .

I wish. . .

Guess what I’m doing. . .

Stop. . .

Mmmm.. .

Know what? 🙂

You have me soooo. . .

Using the ellipsis after the sentence tells him that there is more to the thought.

At first he may be confused by your freaky text message, but over time, these little hooks and dirty talking lines become the signal that he’s in for a sizzling sex surprise.

The sext-starter gets your man's imagination revved up.

From there, you can steer the conversation any direction you’d like by talking freaky to your boyfriend or your husband.

You can jump right into the action (a sexting “quickie”) or start slowly and more innocently for a drawn-out tease sexual talk for him.

Here are some possible ways to talk dirty to your man or your husband.


Learn to talk dirty to your boyfriend in a playful and innocent ways and “Cheat-Proof” Your Relationship?

If you were here. . .

. . . I would meet you at the door totally naked 🙂

. . . I wouldn’t be able to keep my hands off of you.

. . .you’d see just how naughty I’m in the mood to be.

Very very naughty 😉

I wish. . .

. . . I could feel the weight of your body on top of mine

right now

. . .you could feel exactly how turned on I am right


. . .you and what’s in your pants were in front of me

this second 😉

Mmmmm.. .

. . . do you have any idea how turned on I am by you?

. . . the thoughts I’m having right now. Are you blushing?

You should be.

. . . I am longing for your touch right now baby

Jump into the action

If you were here. . .

. . . I would take you in my mouth, licking and sucking

until you lose control

. . .you could bend me over the back of the couch and

take me. . . hard and fast. . . the second you walk in the


. . .you could pour honey all down my naked body and

lick it allllll off. . . inch by inch

Stop. . .

. . . making me so horny. I can’t get any work done

thinking of what I want you to do with my body.

. . . filling my head with deliciously dirty ideas 😉 (then go on to describe)

You have me sooo. . .

. . . turned on. I need you inside of me, filling me up,

making me moan sooo bad right now.

. . .wet right now.

Another HOT and STEAMY example on talking dirty to turn a guy on also called as "Sexting Quickie" This one is really nasty read this.

If you were here. . .

. . . I’d be stroking your hard cock and begging you to fuck me.

. . . I’d be face down, ass up on the bed so you could fill me up soooo deep.

. . .you’d be enjoying my tight, wet kitty cat. purrrrrr. . . . Mmmmmm.. .

. . .my pussy is so ready for you, baby

. . . I want to wrap my mouth around your cock right


You have me sooo. . .

. . . horny right now. I need you to fuck me badddd

. . . turned on and wet, omg I want to feel you inside

me, fucking me hard. . .

# Learn About His Sexual Preferences Before Trying Dirty Talking With Him

Does he have a strong preference for being dominant?

Does he consistently take a strong, commanding and aggressive demeanor with you?

Does he show you he prefers being submissive?

Language or consistent responsiveness to you being the aggressor. Strong attraction to a dominant female character or any actress.

What body part of yours does he fixate on?

Is there commonality between the celebrities he’s attracted to?

Demureness, girl next door, wild woman, overtly sexual or highly virginal?

Of the sexual fantasies he’s shared, what themes show up and what desires are at the core?

For example, it could be to be worshipped, it might be adventure, or it could be control over a woman.

# Here are some more amazing sex talk phrases on how to talk dirty to your boyfriend.

Read it below to learn how to talk sexy to man.

The silk scarf tied around my wrists was cutting into my skin. The blindfold shut out every bit of light, and yet I still had my eyes closed behind it.

A sudden sharp pinch of my left nipple made me yelp in delicious pain.

“Shhhh, Baby You aren’t allowed to make noise. Do it again and I will spank you!” he said.

I thought about defying him. . . just to relish the smack of his hand against my ass.

But before I could open my mouth and say something I felt the tickle of a feather running up my inner thigh and then his mouth met mine in a passionate kiss.

He stopped suddenly and pulled away. I felt lost for a second not knowing where he’d gone.

But this was part of the game. Stopping and starting. Hard and soft. Pain and pleasure.

My senses were on the highest alert not knowing which way he was going to pleasure me next.

He knew I was anxious and he reassured me. “I love watching you so turned on and wanting me.

Nod your head yes if you want me right now.”I wanted to be cool but I nodded my head vigorously.

I couldn’t see it, but I swear I could hear his smile widen. “Now before I fuck you, I want you to spread your legs as wide as you can for me.

And hold them there until I tell you that you can move”I obeyed.

I felt completely exposed. Tied to the bed. Naked with my legs as wide as I could make them.

Totally vulnerable. I was a little scared. . . but I did it anyway. Which absolutely thrilled me.

# How to Talk Dirty to a Guy with Seducing Clear Direction Texts.

These dirty talk examples get straight to the point. You are going to tell him exactly what you want him to do to you OR what you plan to do to him.

Something like this:

I can’t wait for you to in my .

I can’t wait for you to slowly undress me looking at me with

your sexy bedroom eyes.

I can’t wait for you to nibble my nipples. Licking, sucking, a

little biting. Do you know how hot that gets me?

I can’t wait for you to give me your hard cock in my hungry


Tonight I’m going to your until you .

Tonight I’m going to stroke you with my hot wet tongue until

you go over the edge with pleasure.

Tonight I’m going to suck your cock until you cum.

Tonight I’m going to ride you until you cum so hard baby.

I want you to my until I’m .

I want you to lick my clit until I’m writhing and moaning and


I want you to fuck me from behind until I’m making so much

noise I wake the neighbors 😉

I want you to go down on me until every part of my body is

shaking with pleasure.

First, I’m going to . Then I want you to .

First, I’m going to torture you with a slow, sexy strip tease.

Then, when you can’t control yourself for one more second, I

want you to have your way with me 😉

First, I’m going to get on my knees, unzip your pants, and take

you deep into my mouth. Then I want you to watch as I work

my magic until you explode.

First, I’m going to slather whipped cream all over my tits. Then

I want you to take your time as you lick it all off.

These are just a few basic formulas that make it easy for you to get

started. And as you can see from the examples, sometimes you have to

tweak them slightly so they makes sense for the specific direction you

are giving.

As you grow comfortable, by all means unleash your creativity and write

out your own explicitly specific texts!

# How to Talk Nasty or Freaky to Your Boyfriend or Husband by Creating a Deadly combination of Role Playing.

If you are role-playing a specific scene, adopting characters and talking like them is natural.

For example, to really get into the dominant sub role-play of master and slave, act like he has complete dominion over you.

Call him master. Talk sexually to him as if he carries ultimate authority over you.

If you do use a blindfold technique which is one of the best sex moves you can try, In this technique voice mixed with silence plays a very important role.

Keeping your partner off guard by not talking and just acting adds an element of surprise and believe men love such mystery and surprises. 

Asking him to describe in detail what is about to take place heightens the anticipation for you.

If he’s blindfolded, telling him what you are about to do to his body will totally turn him on.

Using the play-by-play technique is always helpful.

Saying out loud how something feels, how much you like it, if you want it harder, slower, longer, more. . . all of it works!

I’ve found that when engaging in different variety of role play and kinky sex techniques most women feel a bit uncomfortable.

But my friend I want to add that if you serious want to add some real sexual adventure into your sex life you must try some of role play ideas.

Believe me it will not only make you will feel confident but also bring out a raunchier side to your dirty talk which probably you wouldn't have been able to discover in normal course of routine sex.

# The Stress Reliever Dirty Talking Lines.

This is again honestly speaking not written by me but by Felicity Keith of

I show up at your office to surprise you with a lunch date. As soon as I walk through the front doors, I can tell things are hectic.

I spot you across the room, having a conversation outside of your office. Somehow you sense my presence, and our eyes meet.

You smile and motion me over.

I walk toward you and admire how good you look. And not just your clothes. . .you look powerful and confident. A man in charge. I’m immediately reminded how proud I am to be with you.

But as I get closer, I can see how stressed you are. The tension in your face, neck, and shoulders is obvious.

A little grin creeps across my face as I think of how I can ease that tension for you. .

.“This is a nice surprise. What are you doing here today, honey? ”you ask as you dismiss your co-worker and greet me with a warm hug.

“I know how hard you work, and I decided to deliver a special treat to you in person.

Let’s go into your office for a minute,” I purr.

You open the door and follow me in with a confused smile.“Shut the door and lock it, please.” You comply.

I grab your belt and pull you closer, turning you around to face me.

“So what is this treat you’ve brought me?” you ask.

“It’s a amazing stress-reliever. I can tell you are having a hectic day,”

I explain as I slide my trench coat off and let it fall to the floor, revealing that black wrap dress I know you like on me.

“Something I think you will really enjoy.

”You look me straight in the eye. “Baby, what exactly are you doing? I have a client conference call in ten minutes.

”I put my finger to your lips “Shhh. . .you will make your conference call.”

I gently guide you to your chair, deftly unbuckling your belt and unzipping your pants.

“Sit,” I order. You sink into the smooth leather seat.

I ease myself onto my knees between your legs.

Your excitement is now visible, as you’ve clearly figured out what my amazing treat involves.

“I was going to take you to lunch.

But seeing your stress and also seeing how in control you look at the same time. . . I have to do this instead.

”I free your rock-hard erection from your pants.

Looking you straight in the eye, I wrap my mouth around you.

Swirling the tip of your hard dick with my tongue with every pass, your legs quiver with pleasure.

I begin to pick up rhythm, taking you deeper and deeper into my mouth with each head.

You stifle a moan and lean your head back on the head rest of your chair while I go to town.

Faster and faster, I am relentless in my need to make you climax.

Your hands are in my hair and your breathing is heavy and rapid.

I know you are close. Your entire body tenses before release.

Just as you shudder and explode into my mouth, the intercom on your phone buzzes “We are meeting in conference room A in three minutes.”

“Perfect timing,” I announce with a wink. Standing up, I straighten my dress and smooth out my ruffled hair.

“Better get to the conference room. See you when you get home!”and I make my exit.

Now the most important part.

No matter what, though, it pays to understand some of the possible pitfalls in using the techniques in this article with someone you are newly dating or someone in long-term relationship.

# Remember Men Love Dirty Talk But Building the Foundation Only on Sex is Not Good

It is WAY easier in life to find a man to have incredible sex with than it is to find a man to build an incredible life with.

Of course, not every single woman is looking for a long-term relationship.

But for those of you who are, it is important to not let your sizzling sexual chemistry blind you to red flags of incompatibility.

Now that you have the skills and know how to tap into his unique sexual desires, you have the power to create an intense sexual tension with nearly any man you date.

So it becomes that much more important to be aware of the other aspects of who he is and why you want to be with him.

Because a long-term relationship won’t be sustainable purely based on great sex.

Being a woman you must know how to talk sexually to your boyfriend or husband to have an overall great relationship and not great sex life only.

Pay attention to the things that indicate whether you really are compatible.

Are your life goals harmonious? Do you communicate well? Is he kind? How does he handle his finances?

How well do you relate outside of the bedroom? Are your unique quirks and flaws deal breakers?

The bottom line: don’t forget to look beyond the amazing sex to see if there truly is relationship potential.

# Not building trust

It takes time to know how well you can trust someone, especially when it comes to revealing your private sexual self.

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and share racy fantasies and explicit desires with someone you are attracted to.

But if the relationship fizzles quickly, you may be left feeling vulnerable or judged for what you disclosed.

Check in with yourself often. Ask yourself, “If I never heard from him again, would I regret what I’ve shared?”

Use that question to decide when it’s right to sleep with him and when it’s right to begin sharing your sexual superpowers.

# Scaring him off

While some guys yearn for an uninhibited sexual goddess ready to explore raunchy fantasies with him from the get go, there are plenty of men who would feel overwhelmed by that from first romp.

Understanding a man’s sexual style before jumping into a specific fantasy or role-play is important.

_ He might not be totally tuned in to his own desires. . . yet

_ He could be somewhat sexually inexperienced

_ He may be more romantic (there are men out there who are!)

You want the experience to be mutually enjoyable.

If you take a wild guess based on your past sexual relationships without knowing his personal taste, you run the risk of alienating him.

Doling out your skills slowly is often the best approach.

If you suspect he is more reserved, let the heat build slowly.

# A note about texting photos to your guy.

It pays to be especially cautious with ANYONE NEW before sending any manner of revealing photos, particularly if the guy is someone you just met and he’s pushing you to send naked photos right from the start.

That should be a red flag! Racy texts and sexy photos are a privilege that should only be granted when you have reasonable proof that he is trustworthy.

Remember this rule of thumb: if the idea of the photo getting shared online without your permission scares you to death, don’t send it.

Also remember that even so-called “safe” apps like SnapChat (where the pics you send through the app get deleted after a few seconds) aren’t 100% safe from being shared.

# How do you handle someone requesting naked pics?

If he asks for a skin pic, send him a photo of something else, like your knee cap, or your neck, or a photo of a cat (get it. . . pussy pic?

Haha). . . something other than what he’s really asking for. It’s a playful way of saying no and talking dirty.

If he still persists, you can tell him that revealing photos are a privilege reserved for being in a relationship. If he continues to push you, dump him.

Seriously. Anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries is bad news.

# Okay, there are cautions, don’ts and pitfalls. So how should you use this article on dirty talking when you are dating?

A new relationship is ripe with opportunities for creating mystery and giving him the thrill of the chase. Use the infancy of the new relationship to your advantage.

Using teasing and innuendo to give him sneak peeks into what’s to come down the road with you.

You remain slightly out of reach, which encourages him to pursue you.

It takes work in a long-term relationship to keep the chase alive and getting him addicted.

But you have the benefit of mystery and chase when you are dating and starting something new.

Don’t squander it by sharing every single amazing trick you know all at the beginning.

This may sound corny, but think of your sexual superpowers as premium bonuses that are earned, like in a video game.

Only when a man reaches a certain level (or milestone) does he get to enjoy that gift or bonus.

This prevents you from sharing too much too soon, which keeps the chase alive and keeps him coming back for more.

These milestones are totally at your discretion, but I do recommend taking care to reveal them over time rather than right out of the gates.

# Some natural milestones when dating someone:

_ The first handful of dates (some relationships don’t get past date 1 or 2)

_ The first time you have sex

_ The first time you spend the night together at his/your place

_ Deciding to be exclusive

_ Saying “I love you”

_ Meeting important people (friends, kids, parents)

_ Going on vacation or a getaway together

_ Talking about the future (moving in, marriage, etc.)

As your relationship progresses through these milestones, you can introduce different techniques.

Some of these you’ve already read, some will be in upcoming modules (those are marked with an *).

Dirty talking tricks to use without sex:

# Flirty and a little dirty texts for the beginning.

I am a HUGE believer in using texting when you are dating someone. It’s a fantastic medium for flirting and letting him know he’s on your mind.

There are lots of text phrases in all of the techniques I teach you, and they go from flirty to downright raunchy.

But if you are newly dating someone, many of those raunchy ones would be coming on way too strong.

You can certainly modify any of the above dirty talking lines to suit your personal taste and save some of the more explicit material for later on in a relationship.

However, I think setting the tone early on with flirting via text is important.

You want to establish early on that texting will be a fun way to play together.

So use some of the tried and true texts you read above when you want to flirt without getting (too) dirty when you’ve just begun to date someone.

I will stop here. I believe you TRULY admired reading this step-by-step guide on how to talk dirty to your boyfriend.

Quick Warning: While this tutorial video is quite distressing, it will teach you how to make your man scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you. If you are interested in having a man completely obsessed with you and only you, then check out the detailed (& explicit!) Dirty Talking tutorial video here.

About the Author Manish Yadav

My name is Manish Yadav and I’m the owner of the blog "Love Finds its Way". My advice does away with the manipulations and mind games recommended by magazines and the surface level advice of TV gurus… We’ll dive DEEP into the psychology and biology of desire and give you actionable steps you can use today. Over 900,000 men & women have transformed their relationships as a result, and I've been featured in Lifehack, Return of Kings, Menimprovement, Urban Dater, and so on... ...and no... We're not here to play games so you can manipulate your significant other... ...My only intention is to help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship by working on your intimacy with each other. And we’re just getting started!

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