Forget the perfect body. Have you ever given a thought on how to talk with a sexy voice or how to attract someone with a sexy voice? If not this guide is for you.
An oft-overlooked tool in the quest to attract members of the opposite sex is something you already have and that you already use every day. And that is your voice - your sexy voice.
It might need a bit of refining, but you don't need to spend an hour pounding it out on the treadmill or enforcing a strict self-denial regime to make the most of it.
All you have to do is spend 10 to 15 minutes a day maximum on some simple practice for the next three weeks and you'll learn how to talk with a sexy voice and make your partner fall in love with you.
I'm talking about your voice - your sexy voice … the ultimate tool for attractive, flirtatious, and downright seductive communication.
We're constantly making evaluations and decisions on the attractiveness of others according to the quality of their voice.
When you meet someone for the first time, you form an instant snapshot of that person.
Some research indicates that 90% of your lasting opinion of someone is formed in the first ten seconds of meeting them.
That's a pretty small window of time to come off well!
And your voice plays a major role in how you present yourself to people, so it makes sense to polish it up like the valuable resource that it is.
Recent studies have yielded some pretty impressive statistics in favor of improving the resonance and quality of your voice.
Approximately 73% of those surveyed said it was important to them that their partner have an attractive or a sexy voice.
Which means that a whopping three quarters of everyone out there that you could potentially attract factor in the sound of your voice when evaluating your suitability as a potential partner/flirtation/one-night-stand/whatever it is you're after.
In a nutshell, you can significantly improve your chances with the opposite sex by improving the tone and quality of your voice.
And, even better, it's easy to do so!
You just have to spend a little bit of time doing some quick and easy voice training lessons and slowly you'll learn how to talk with a sexy voice and attract someone instantly.
I'm going to give you two techniques used by professional voice coaches to refine, smooth, and lower the tone and sound of their clients' voices.
Even singing coaches use them to have a sexy voice.
These exercises help to soften and even out the quality of voice by retraining the diaphragm (the sheet of muscle under your lungs, which controls the speed at which you inhale and exhale) and the vocal cords.
But before I tell you what they are, you may be wondering what kind of vocal quality you're going to be working towards.
You can't just decide to “talk with a sexy voice” without knowing what constitutes a sexy voice!
You might think that the qualities of a sexy voice differ between the sexes, in other words, that the qualities we look for in a male voice would be substantially different to the qualities we like in a feminine voice.
Not so. In fact, studies show that the same qualities of voice attract both men and women, regardless of the gender of the speaker.
Those qualities are:
- Low pitch (a deep voice)
- Soft, quiet timbre
- Slowness of pronunciation and word enunciation.
And what qualities make a voice unsexy? Again, it's pretty similar for both sexes:
- Rapid speed of talking
- High-pitched voice
- Loudness of tone
- Nasal pronunciation
Your voice constitutes a big part of how you present yourself to the world. It has a massive effect on how the world perceives you.
How do you think people perceive someone with a slow, soft, husky, voice?
You got it: hot. Don't underestimate the sex appeal of a well-modulated, soft-spoken sexy voice!
But getting a hotter voice isn't as easy as trying to remember to speak more slowly and deeply.
Your vocal quality is influenced by your vocal apparatus, which includes muscles that you can train like any other muscle in your body.
That's why I want to give you two exercises that can actually retrain your voice to sound sexier.
Now, you don't have to practice these exercises every day for the rest of your life!
If you want to learn how to talk with a sexy voice I recommend that you commit to doing them for the next three weeks (21 days).
That's enough for your new vocal technique to become second nature to you. Here's your first exercise on how to talk with a sexy voice.
This is a simple breathing mechanism that teaches you how to breathe in and out with control, which is necessary for a smooth, full voice.
The aim here is to limber up your diaphragm and breathing apparatus.
Your diaphragm is the hard, rubbery sheet of muscle that controls the contraction and expansion of your lungs.
In plain English, it makes your lungs go in and out. Most people breathe shallowly, from the tops of their lungs, and don't utilize the power of the diaphragm.
This results in a tense throat and chest as well as a higher, squeakier, almost strangled-sounding voice.
Not sexy! For full control over a smooth, full, sexy voice, you will need to practice breathing from below your diaphragm, not from the tops of your lungs.
Here's how to do it.
1. Make a fist, and hold it directly below your navel – the lower half of your belly.
2. Now scoop in and clench the muscles where your fist is. Pretend that you're trying to get your belly-button to touch your spine.
Don't hold your breath or breathe in or out significantly. You're clenching your belly muscles, not your lungs.
3. As you clench those lower muscles, breathe out simultaneously. Your lungs should empty of air as your belly button sucks in towards your spine.
4. To let air back in, slowly release your clenched abdominals as you breathe in.
Your lungs should reach their comfortable capacity as your stomach muscles become fully relaxed.
5. At the same time, drop your head slightly back, so your chin is pointing up a little bit.
With a relaxed throat, let the air flow in. Your stomach should rise a little bit as you breathe in fully.
Practice this breathing routine for approximately five minutes to have a sexy voice.
Remember, you don't need to breathe deeply, or exhale more than you normally would: the focus here is on keeping the length and depth of each breath slow and even.
Now it's time for your second exercise. You'll be spending about ten minutes on this one.
All you're going to be doing is practicing speaking in a lower range.
Here's what you do:
1. Recite the alphabet in your normal speaking voice. Pay attention to each letter: don't rush it.
Enunciate clearly, pronounce each letter clearly and fully.
2. Now, repeat the exercise, but this time drop it down a scale.
Don't be too ambitious: one full note lower than your normal speaking voice is fine.
Again, don't rush the pronunciation. Take the time to savor each letter.
3. Repeat the alphabet a third time – this time, one note lower again.
4. Repeat the process a few more times until you're at your lowest note: where you can still speak comfortably and without strain, but feel that you couldn't easily go any lower.
5. Practice at this level for several more alphabetical repetitions.
This way, when you've become even slightly accustomed to speaking at this tone, the voice range of one or two notes above your lowest range will feel easy, comfortable and natural.
Just to clarify, the idea here is not to speak in your lowest possible range!
The point of this exercise is to develop your vocal cords so their flexibility increases.
When you practice this technique every day for ten to fifteen minutes, you're accustoming your vocal cords to going that low, so that speaking a few notes above this will, in time, be a complete cakewalk.
Tips to a Sexier Voice
Once you've practiced the exercises above and understood the principles of a sexy vocal tone, here are five points to remember.
1. Speak slowly.
People who take their time with their words and don't rush their enunciation are much sexier than a high-octane chatterbox.
There's nothing sexy about rushing.
Taking your time with your communication connotes leisure and self-assurance, two essential ingredients in any effective flirtation.
2. Speak softly
There's no need to whisper and certainly don't mumble, but your voice should be soft, supple, satiny, velvety.
It should purr into people's ears. On the other hand, a voice like a brass gong is a real turn-off.
To maximize your personal attraction levels, ditch the Stentorian tones and keep it quiet.
3. Talk from your chest and throat, not your nose.
Some people inadvertently emphasize the nasal tones of their voice when they're trying to develop their vocal cords.
Don't! It will make you sound whiny and nasal, as if you have a cold.
Watch out for that tell-tale vibration in your soft palate (directly behind the roof of your mouth) and nostrils that tells you you're “talking through your nose.”
4. Practice your breathing and alphabet every day to see an improvement.
You can do it as you drive to work, while you walk the dog, in the shower, or while you make breakfast. Fifteen minutes isn't hard to fit in.
5. Use your diaphragm-control technique in conversation to maintain a full, supple, sexy voice.
You don't have to worry about the breathing routine per se: more just to stay aware of your diaphragm and where you're breathing from.
Remember to exhale as you talk and to keep your breaths slow and even.
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