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First things first …before you learn how to make him chase you – you need to know that FEMINISM LIED TO YOU (at least when it comes to men.)
You need to UNLEARN everything you’ve ever heard about “women being equal to men” when it comes to sex, love, romance, and commitment. It’s only then you’ll understand the secret behind how to make him chase you for lifelong.
Yes, feminism is like the light at the end of the tunnel. It has given women incredible power and equality when it comes to life as a woman – far from the days of cooking TV dinners in a corset and house dress, now women can run companies, earn millions of dollars, wear pants in public, basically do whatever the heck you want.
BUT, when it comes to LOVE, there’s one rule that’s never changed (and never will):
Sexually, men and women are at opposite poles like games of chicken.
That means you can’t ACT like a man if you want to GET a man (and not just any man, but the right man for you.)
And you might think you know what that means.
But it probably goes deeper than you might realize.
Let’s get into some more detail.
First of all …
He wants to think of you being the prize that he hunted down, strategized over, chased, and eventually WON. He wants to make crazy memories together.
He wants to feel the adrenaline, the anxiety, the sexual attraction, the gut-numbing FEAR of putting himself out there and not knowing how you feel, whether you’ll accept him, whether you think he’s ‘good enough’ for YOU.
Yes, this may sound insane. But remember, the world isn’t logical, men aren’t logical, and HIS dreams are not YOUR dreams.
So … don’t try to short-cut the process by ‘helping him’ out or ‘taking it easy on him’ by doing all the heavy lifting yourself (don’t you DARE!) you’ve got to let him be the man, and a big part of that is letting HIM put HIMSELF out there for you.
Let me put it this way:
Imagine for a second that your guy is one of those beer-swilling, Republican-voting guys who like to go hunting on the weekend.
(I know, I know … but just work with me here for a second. It’s an analogy. Go with it.)
Does a guy like that treasure the deer that came jumping down the mountain straight into his lap?
NO! he treasures the deer that he got up at 4 am to catch, dressed in ridiculous clothes for, smeared his face with camo paint for, hiked through mud, through rivers, into swamps and up mountains for 9 hours for, squatted in cold forests to stalk, laid little traps for and eventually triumphed over.
THAT’S the deer that he’ll triumphantly lug home, mount its antlers up on the wall, make a delicious stew out of, and brag to all his friends about how ‘hard this one was to catch’ but eventually he ‘conquered it’.
THAT’S the deer that he’ll remember forever that he’ll grin about whenever he remembers the chase … that he’ll BRAG about to all his friends for years to come.
THAT’S the deer that you need to take a lesson from.
And before anyone clouts me over the head about this.
Yes, I realize this is incredibly politically incorrect.
I know you’re not a deer.
I know you don’t want to get shot, hung on a wall, and eaten.
The point is, politics have no place in the bedroom … and they never, ever will.
You can either fight against it, be a ‘feminist’ about sex, and struggle hard to ever find a satisfying, loving, happily-committed relationship with a man.
Or you go WITH the current and let it carry you where you want to go.
It’s your choice – but I strongly suggest you take the EASY OPTION here (which also happens to be the only one that works.)
Let him do the work, sugar. Your job is to sit back, be the goddess, and let him earn you. Let him chase you (And won’t that feel GOOD?)
No more booty calls, no more enforcing your boundaries, no more emotional manipulations, no more last-minute dates, no more “hanging out” with guys.
I want to share with you a story of one of my beautiful friend.
When she was 17, she was head over heels in love with a bad boy full of sexual attraction and only primed for sex.
I KNEW he was bad. I KNEW he was taking her for a ride. But it was so darn exciting that she just couldn’t say no.
She loved the adrenaline rush, micro-chasing, the excitement of never knowing whether I was coming or going.
Sometimes he’d book a date with her on Saturday night and never show up or even call.
She was not able to read his exploitability signals as she was more happy feeling the sexual push and pull happening in her new relationship.
Sometimes he’d ring her at 8 pm on a Friday night for a 9 pm “date”.
When he told her we’d be “exclusive”, she KNEW she couldn’t really trust him but she went along with it anyway, because she liked the challenge (ah, the stupidity of youth like damsel in distress) of trying to be the woman who was so cool and so fun and so pretty that she would change him.
He’d realize how great she was … he’d fall in love with her sooner or later … as long as she just kept having fun and didn’t take it all too seriously. She thought.
Well, she’s a lot older now, and she understands a lot more about how men work. And here’s one thing she know for sure:
If you make yourself too available to a guy, and take all his crap like you don’t deserve or expect anything better, he will NEVER EVER take you seriously and over time he will get emotionally withdrawn.
And, um, even more importantly, you’ll never be able to take YOURSELF seriously, which has a knock-on effect for ALL the relationships in your life, including those with your colleagues, your boss, and your friends.
Now, you might think you ‘already know’ this. But take a look at your life and see if your actions REALLY mirror your words.
Do you ever accept last minute dates from a guy (one you’re not already exclusive with and in a committed relationship with?)
Even if you ARE in a committed relationship with a guy, does he still sometimes bother to ‘book you in’ a few days in advance, or do you find yourself settling for “spontaneity”
This is a clear sign of exploitability signals and emotionally manipulative behavior from a man.
(Read: last-minute dates which probably mostly end up as Chinese takeout, TV, and six to eight minutes of sex before lights-out) just because the two of you are an ‘item’ now?
Do you ever find yourself in the role of “booty-girl” … the one who takes calls from a guy any time after 9pm (on ANY day of the week) and traipse round to his place to “hang out”? (Come on, now)
You KNOW that’s not “hanging out”. That’s a booty call plain and simple.)
In simple words, you’re enforcing your boundaries just because he is primed for sex.
Yes, he wants you tonight, or tomorrow night … but he will want you MORE if he knows he has to work a little harder to get you.
And it’s possible only when you stay mysterious and realize that not needing a man is the secret technique to making him chase you.
He’ll figure out that you’re in demand that he has to up his game a little to be the one who gets to spend time with you.
And truthfully? He WANTS you to make him work that little bit harder.
Even if he doesn’t know it yet.
Let’s cut a long story short here:
If you are too easy to get, you’re just not going to seem high-value to ANYONE.
Harsh, yes … but deep down he wants the woman he had to EARN … not the woman who didn’t have anything else going on and who was available whenever he wanted her because she didn’t have anything better to do.
Which would you rather be?
The woman who offered herself up because her life was otherwise empty?
Or the prize with the cool life that men just NATURALLY want to try and be a part of?
Let him make the first move. Always, if you want to make crazy memories together.
He wants to win you. He wants to work for you. He wants to get crazy for you. He WANTS to.
That is just how chemistry and sexual attraction work.
And you can forget about that “happily ever after” story where a girl chased a guy and called him every day and eventually he realized they were perfect for each other (and then SHE asked to marry HIM and now they’re so happy together …)
(Yes, that was the sound of me throwing up a little in my mouth.)
Every women know those stories …
And I HATE those stories.
Those stories are USELESS.
In fact, those stories are actually a little MEAN.
Because they make women – otherwise-smart, otherwise-successful, otherwise-BRILLIANT women – believe that they can and should act like “the man”, and everything will still work out for the best.
That may work in the boardroom … but trying to wear the pants in the bedroom is no fun and will NOT end well for you.
Because you’re not the girl in the story.
And you never will be.
And you’ll be happier if you forget all about that stupid girl anyway.
Bottom line, we’ve all heard about the 100-year old woman who’s smoked a pack of cigarettes every day for sixty years and is still healthy as a horse but that doesn’t mean YOU should reach for the Marlboros, because you all know that woman’s a freak of nature and what worked for HER will never, ever, work for everybody else.
Let him ask YOU for a date.
Let him ask you to MARRY HIM, for God’s sake.
Don’t ruin it all by poking and prying and trying to make it happen ‘sooner’.
When he feels it, he’ll act on it … and until then, your job is to be an amazing, beautiful, sexy, intelligent woman who feels great about herself, because you have the self-respect and the self-worth to LET A MAN EARN YOU.
I will stop here. I hope you loved reading this article on how to make him chase you.
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My name is Manish Yadav and I’m the owner of the blog "Love Finds its Way". My advice does away with the manipulations and mind games recommended by magazines and the surface level advice of TV gurus… We’ll dive DEEP into the psychology and biology of desire and give you actionable steps you can use today. Over 900,000 men & women have transformed their relationships as a result, and I've been featured in Lifehack, Return of Kings, Menimprovement, Urban Dater, and so on... ...and no... We're not here to play games so you can manipulate your significant other... ...My only intention is to help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship by working on your intimacy with each other. And we’re just getting started!