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How To Make Him Hard And CRAVE You (Tried & Tested Tips)

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If you want to learn how to make him hard and do everything that you want him to do to you in bed, you have come to the right place.

You just found the most comprehensive, step by step, full of examples & tips guide about how to turn your man on and make him so hard that he will be obsessed with you.

Before we start, know that if you get his pants off and aren’t greeted by a raging, incredible hard-on, it’s not a big deal.

It happens with a lot of women. Basically you need to turn up the heat and find out exactly what makes a guy hard (which is what you are going to learn in this guide).

You need to learn how to tease a man sexually for helping him achieve that rock hard erection in bed.

So, before you learn to make him hard, please understand: Penises aren’t magic.

Ask any guy who’s had his for a while, and he’ll tell you that these things are kind of unpredictable and that he can be feeling INSANELY turned on and attracted to a woman and NOT have a hard-on.

In fact, some men, due to age or some other reason, have lower testosterone and sometimes need a little help to get things cooking.

Either way, if he is already hard, you simply “lube up” and move on to try different sex moves and have fun in bed.

If he’s NOT hard or is only semi-hard, that gives you the opportunity to tease and torment him even more.

So how do you get him hard and “ready for action?” Learn everything you need to know here, as this is going to be an awesome guide.

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How To Get Him Hard By Talking Dirty

A study conducted by the online dating agency, Saucy Dates, has shown that men and women love to hear dirty words while getting down to business – and the results were very interesting indeed.

The goal of Dirty Talking is painting a visual in your man’s mind with dirty words that spark his imagination and sexual urge. Using seducing lines and phrases to make him hard and spice up the entire room.

The point that I want to illustrate with dirty talking is that I want you to be a strong, sexual woman who is adventurous AND knows very well how to connect with her man on an emotional as well as sexual level.

These words and phrases get him hard?

Dirty talk. Tell him how sexy he is.

Tell him how beautiful his cock is! Trust me this little sexy phrase is what makes a guy hard in bed.

Have you ever watched porn with him? Or even alone?

What were some of the things that really stood out? And what things made his dick stand up?

Say dirty things like:

“I love your big cock. I can’t wait to wrap my hands around it.”

“Tell me how you want me to touch him.”

“When I’m done with your cock he’s gonna be soooooo sore.”

Talking dirty is speaking his primal sex language

Daryl Cioffi, specializing in couples, relationships, sex, neuropsychology, and owner of Polaris Counseling & Consulting in Patucket, R.I., says dirty talk is a whole mind and body experience.

When you talk explicitly and uninhibitedly, you reinforce his sexual prowess. This strengthens his connection to you

Very few women understand how to speak to their men in this direct way and get him instantly rock hard and turned on.

And even the women who DO understand how powerful this method is... well, they sometimes forget because life and all of its responsibilities get in the way. 

He may be (pleasantly) shocked when you first try out these dirty talk techniques. 

But I guarantee that any immediate silence is NOT judgment

In fact, he is going to be completely floored by the intense way you can turn him on like no other woman ever has

Sexy examples of dirty talk to get him hard instantly

I can’t wait for you to see how naughty I can be. 

I need to feel you inside of me right now. 

You make me so fucking horny. 

I want you so bad, I’m aching for your cock. 

I don’t want you to stop until you are shaking, spent, and exhausted. 

Make me your personal slut tonight. 

I’m going to make you come so hard. Oh my god, your dick feels so good. 

You have me so wet right now. I want to wrap my mouth around your cock right now. 

I want you to go down on me until every part of my body is shaking with pleasure. 

Visually tease him to make him hard

Men are sexual creatures and sex is always on their mind. That is why the idea of visual teasing playfully puts you just out of reach to your man. 

It builds up a little tension and sexual frustration so that when you do let him “catch” you, the sizzle factor is high. This is where you may want to shed some of your own clothes.

Just be sure to do it slowly, languidly, giving him time for his eyes to explore every newly exposed inch of flesh.

Watching your erotic moves makes him crave you

Undulate your hips in long, slow circles, much like an aerobics warm-up.

Walk around topless, just wearing your panties.

Hold your hands over your breasts, pretending to be “shy.” Bend down to pick up something off the floor.

Let him watch while you shave your bikini area. Ask for his input on what he’d like to see.

Show Off Your Hips/Ass To Get Him Hard

Bend down to visually stimulate him by letting him see your sexy ass and ask him to visualize as if he’s actually penetrating you. 

Gather a collection of cute booty-showcasing undies – or go buy some cheeky boy shorts, thongs, g-strings, or lacy panties with ruching in the middle. 

Put on some music and give him a little fashion show. It’s playful and fun for him to watch you strut your stuff.

This just gets him really hard and horny for you.

Go commando to make him hard… 

Go commando or leave your panties on under a skirt. This is a great tactic to amp up a sense of urgency

On the way home after a date, kiss him passionately in the car then lead him to the door. 

Lean over the back of the couch and flip up your skirt, begging him to take you right there

If you have panties on, don’t take them off. Have him just push them to the side

It’s super hot to be so caught up in the moment you can’t even take an extra two seconds to take off your clothes.

Note that these are sexy ideas on how to get a guy hard for you and these ideas apply in different situations depending on the status of your relationship with him.

This is how to get him hard… these little kinky sex ideas and sexual gestures can bring amazing changes in your sex life.

If you’re not entirely comfortable with these visual tactics, try playing some sexy music in the background. It can help ease sexual tension and relax the mood.

Touch yourself sexually to get him hard

You probably already knew that men get intensely aroused by watching women masturbate.

So touching yourself is a great way to seduce him and help him get things started.

And of course, you can always start things off with some porn.

If he watches porn, you probably have an idea as to what “flavour” porn he prefers. 

He’ll appreciate the event even more if you can have the TV or computer queued up and ready to go.

Tactilely. If he’s even a little hard (or even if he’s not) there are a few techniques you can use to cause a rush of blood to his little head and get him hard.

Even if you don’t immediately get the “rager” out of him you want, men can still get a great amount of pleasure from having their flaccid or semi-flaccid penises touched.

“Tactile” techniques to seduce him

Make Him Hard and Horny With the Kiss of Your Fingernails:

This one is super simple but often very effective.

Simply take the fingernails of one hand and very lightly run them along the underside of his penis.

Apply as little pressure as you can, so your fingernails are just barely “kissing” his flesh.

For added stimulation and tease, start down by the bulb of his penis, run your nails on his balls, up to his shaft and stop JUST SHORT of his glans.

Repeat this action while whispering some of the dirty words and phrases you learned above, or you can use read them here in this guide by me on how to talk dirty to your man.

Note that The Kiss of the Fingernails works equally as well on other parts of a man’s body: his chest, nipples, thighs, and back.

The lighter you touch a man, the more sensitive and “awake” his skin becomes.

The Soft Stroke to Get Him Rock Hard

With “The Soft Stroke,” you take matters, quite literally, into your own hands.

Lube up and use the overwhelming slickness to slowly and lightly stroke his shaft.

For added bonus points you can use your free hand to tickle his balls.

If his shaft isn’t hard enough to truly “stroke,” then focus just on the glans, using the lube to send little shocks of pleasure through his system.

Get naked and give a sensual massage to get him hard

Take time to give him a long, sensual massage

Or enjoy a candlelit bath together where he gets to explore every inch of your body and focus solely on pleasuring you. 

Looking at your naked erogenous parts (while you give him a massage) will certainly make him rock hard for you.

Tip: At some point he will want to take you right there. But you will say "no", that will increase his delicious torment and he'll ​be mad about you.

Kiss Him And Get Him Hotter Than Sex

Dr. Laura Berman, sex and relationship therapist and brand ambassador for Forta, says it's the thoughts and intentions behind the kiss that make it passionate. 

The best way to kiss him is to grab your man at a totally random time (ideally an inopportune time for sex) and lay a totally passionate kiss on him out of the blue. 

Grab the back of his head. Push your body up against his. Use your tongue. K​​iss ​​him like you want to screw his brains out right that very second

And then stop.​

Go right back to what you were doing before leaving him reeling and off-kilter (and most likely with a boner).

Amazing kissing techniques to surprise him and get him hard

Following previous advice, these are some ideal moments to kiss him and keep him thinking about you.

  • He’s leaving for work and is in a rush or he has an important meeting, so he can’t stay to make good on the promise of your kiss
  • Right before walking into a social event that you both are committed to attending.
  • While you’re cooking dinner and the oven timer is about to go off.
  • When the pizza delivery guy is pulling into the driveway and about to ring the doorbell.
  • One of you is leaving on a short outing or trip.
  • Pulled aside quickly in a hallway or bathroom when you are with other people or at someone’s house.
  • At the end of a date where you absolutely won’t be winding up in bed together.

The first few times you do this, he will probably ask you, “Whoa, where did that come from?” or something to that effect. 

All you need to do is smile sweetly and say, “You just turn me on so much sometimes I can’t control myself.” 

It gets him rock hard and his engine is totally ignited to rip off your clothes and make love to you all night long.

Protip - Full red lips to make him hard

Some guys really love luscious and juicy lips. Every woman know that lipstick and gloss look great...until it causes a mess when it gets smeared on your faces. 

Buy a sexy red juicy lipstick and apply it while you are about to kiss him or you guys out for a date or you’re making out in the bedroom. 

The red lips of yours add a spicy element by making him hard and he’ll be ready like a lion to jump on his prey.

Love His Dick To Get His Devotion

According to a new study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, 86 percent of American Men are satisfied with the state of their penises.

If you want to reach right into the core of any man’s raw, primal sex drive, you need to understand just how important his penis is to him

He sees his penis as an extension of his masculinity and self-worth. He views his penis as his tool to bring you to the heights of ecstasy

His penis is the body part that shows proof of these manly testosterone-driven desires, much more than his brain.

A guy loves his penis, but he also feels completely at its mercy at the same time.

Which is why he might call his penis his “little brain,” or he may say his penis has a mind of its own.

In a man’s world, the penis is calling the shots much of the time

And if you can love and respect his dick the way he wants you can only get him highly turned on and hard for you but you’ll get his LIFE-LONG DEVOTION AND LOVE.

The Love Between Your Boobs And His Penis

Just like the way women love their boobs, men love their penises. 

Let me explain. The best comparison to help you understand how his penis represents his manhood is how you women feel about your breasts

You obsess over their size and shape. You try all sorts of bras to enhance how they look. 

You compare your “boobs” to other women’s. And for many of you, you view your boobs as the pinnacle of your femininity

Whereas most guys? Sure, they love boobs, but they generally don’t nit-pick about them

Because in their minds, “Awesome! I get to see boobs!” is all that matters. 

And honestly, the way you think about your boobs is probably only a fraction of the importance a man gives his penis

Just understand he has looked at his wiener in every possible way. He’s measured it. He’s compared it to other guy’s units. 

He thinks about his penis ALL THE TIME. Or at least a good amount of time. And he hopes against all hopes that you find his penis amazing.

So the bottom line is: The more affection, attention, and love you shower on his cock, the more he feels like a man – a big, strong, sexy, virile MAN and this feeling itself gets him hard and seduced for you.

How To Love His Dick To Get Him So Hard That He Never Loses Erection

By loving his penis almost as much as he does, you drive him absolutely WILD with an appreciation for you. 

Because he’s probably never had a woman love on his penis this way. It’s true! He wants to you play with his penis that’s what he ​​wants in bed.

Men yearn to be objectified, and they so rarely get to revel in it. 

Most women make that “ewwwww!” face when they come face to face with a naked dick

I bet you might be even making that face right now! You need to reprogram your brain with regard to his penis

You need to think about his cock. Tell yourself how much you love it

Worship it.

You need to have his cucumber on your brain 24/7. Here is what I want you to do: 

Text Him This To Show Your Love For His Dick

A sexy text out of the blue that says “Just thinking of how much I love your dickwill blow his mind. Simple as that. 

But get in the habit of telling him things like: 

I love your dick.

Your penis is incredible.

I can’t wait to feel your penis inside me.

I want to have your dick in my mouth…

(Remember these sexy phrases makes him hard… really hard and turned on.)

I don't know if I can handle that much cock.

Are you sure that beast will fit on me?

Your cock feels so amazing. 

I want your hard cock so bad. 

I must have been a good girl all year to get this amazing cock.

Is this amazing cock just for me?

You have such a magnificent cock. 

Your dick gives me so much pleasure. 

I love making you and your cock happy and satisfied. 

I can’t stop thinking about your amazing penis. 

Seeing your hard dick turns me on. 

I love how thick your cock is. 

Wow, what a viril, masculine, alpha-male cock. I want it inside me right now.

I want to be penetrated by your impressive dick.

I've never seen a cock like this before. It makes me wet just to look at it.

It's hard for me to behave in front of this sublime member of yours.

That is powerful and intoxicating to him. And it will earn you his utter devotion and love. 

Why? Because you love his cock like no other woman ever has before and more so you’ll be able to get him hard on command not once, not twice but every time. 

***The Following Sections are Not For Singles***

Bust out The Big Guns: The Boob Play To Get Him Hard.

Ladies put those titties to good use!

This is just to get things started, remember (he might want to get carried away).

Rub his (flaccid or semi-flaccid) cock in between your tits or all over your tits.

Even if your boobs are on the small side, rubbing your nipples against his shaft or head will probably be enough to activate the launch sequence.

Get Him Hard by Giving him a Handjob

Keep in mind, the whole reason you’re learning this handjob exercise in the first place is to increase the intimacy and keep the intimate bond between you and your man. 

You want to show him how much his happiness and pleasure are important to you.

You want him to feel desired and needed. (And you want some reciprocity too, right?)

Just lay there and touch, stroke, and caress his penis and balls.

Take the pressure off the table. “I don’t even need to see you get hard right now, baby. I love doing this for you.”

Ask him about anything. Talk to him. Or don’t talk.

Watch TV or listen to music. Go with what feels right.

Most men will let you do this for hours. My wife did this one time with me. We sat on the couch watching Cricket while she rubbed my cock and played with my balls all day long.

Even though it was almost 3 years ago, it’s a day we look back on fondly.

In fact, I can just reference that day – “Hey, remember the time we watched Cricket all day while you played with my dick?” – and she’ll get super hot and I get a raging erection.

How To Give Blow Job To Make Him Hard

I am a man and I know how good it feels to get a blow job, in better words MIND-BLOWING.

It is just awesome a feeling that takes you out of the world to the orgasm land. But there is a twist the opposite is true if you fail horribly with a blow job.

It’s an art that most women just don’t know and imagine if you get him hard but do not please him the way he wants the situation can be so embarrassing... isn’t it?

No issues I’ll cover the basics of blow job so that you surprise him and make him wonder where the hell this came from.

Simple And Easy Blow Job Tips

Step 1 - Ask what he likes. Every penis is slightly different, so asking your man what he enjoys is the number one thing to do. Speed, position, and area of focus are critical to know in order to do a custom-made job for him. 

Step 2. Wetter is better. A dry mouth on a dry penis can be painful. Flavoured lubricant or lots of saliva is key. Make sure you’re well-hydrated to be in top saliva-producing mode. 

Step 3. Practice. A lot of women don’t like oral simply because it can be uncomfortable. But like any skill, the more you practice, the easier it becomes! You can practice by giving shorter oral sessions with him, like as a pre-cursor to vaginal sex. 

You can also practice alone with a banana (keep the peel on because banana can break in two while stuffed in your mouth). 

Get used to breathing through your nose, relaxing your throat muscles to calm your gag reflex, and keeping your jaw open...it will make a big difference in your comfort level while giving head. 

Step 4. Not just the tip. The tip of the penis is the most sensitive part of his body. Too much tongue action, too soon, may not feel good for him. Think of how you enjoy oral sex. 

Most women like his tongue attention to start with slow and soft, and then vary between direct pressure on the clitoris and licking/sucking on the inner and outer labia. 

You want him to gradually build up to more intense and focused pressure on the clit. If he just went to town sucking or pressing hard right off the bat, you’d probably yelp in pain. 

Apply the same logic to his penis. Focus on the length of the shaft, the base, balls, and perineum while giving him oral pleasure. 

Start slowly and gently. Vary where and how you’re placing your mouth and tongue on him, and build up speed and pressure as you go. 

Pro Tip Be Enthusiastic And Happy When Giving Him Blow Job

This is probably the most important tip on giving great oral. Just like the way you want oral sex , he too wants it.

And He LOVES it when you act like you genuinely want to give him pleasure. If he has to beg or you seem like you dread it, it massively diminishes his enjoyment. 

So please be enthusiastic about giving him head so that the graph of your relationship and sex life always grow in the upward direction.

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Moan To Seduce Him And Get Him Hard

A woman’s moaning tells her man “Excellent job!” So men have learned to interpret your noises as positive affirmations

And your moans actually tap into that primal part of his brain which gets him hard and highly aroused.

Not only is that primal part of his brain activated, but his ego is also totally pumped up. “Wow! Look how amazing I must be to make her moan/scream/curse like that! Just WOW!” 

This, is a heavy-duty dose of sexual satisfaction for a man

You are giving him this incredible affirmation on his sexual prowess while activating his brain chemistry and making him hard at the same time. BOOM! 

What to do if he STILL can’t get hard?

So if your man’s penis isn’t in the mood, don’t let that ruin the day or cause strain in the relationship.

Like I said before, men can be super turned on without having an erection.

He’ll appreciate all the attention he’s getting from you (and your hands).

So just love him and have some foreplay and kissing as we discussed above, cuddle along and sleep in his arms.

I will stop here, I hope you enjoyed this guide on how to make him hard. 

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If he doesn't get hard, don't push it

If the above tricks don’t work, you have three MORE options to get him hard.

Let him do it. As men are absolute masters of their own genitalia, and he probably knows exactly how he needs to be touched to get hard.

Let him. You can say, “How about we break the rules just a little bit and let you get this party started.” Don’t put pressure on him to make him hard. That will totally act against you.

Touch everything BUT his penis. As I said above, a man is more than just a penis, and focusing on OTHER parts of his body might allow him to relax enough to give you what you want.

Skim your hands and nails across his body. Dig your nails in teasingly.

Bring your body close to his while continuing to tell him that he’s not allowed to touch you.

If none of that works, then it means he’s really nervous, or distracted, or whatever other of the millions of reasons that can impact sexual function.

Don’t make it a big deal. Whatever you do, do NOT get mad about getting him hard.

General FAQ

How to make a guy hard?

If you want to make him hard you have different options:
1. You can use Dirty Talk. Sexy Phrases makes a guy hard on demand and the brain is the most erogenous zone.
2. Visually Tease him. Slowly, giving him time for his eyes to explore every newly exposes inch of flesh.
3. Softly Touch His Intimate Parts. Simple but often very effective, use your fingernails and very lightly run them along the underside of his penis. Apply as little pressure as you can, so your fingernails are just barely “kissing” his flesh.
4. Soft Stroke Him: With this you take matters, quite literally, into your own hands.

What makes a guy hard?

Surprising him with a dirty text while he’s in a meeting or an unexpected situation, send him a wet sexy picture of you when you’re just out of the shower, kiss him on the neck sensually, get half-naked when you’re around him to raise the heat with him, wear undergarments of his favourite colour.

How to make him hard fast?

Send an audio clip of your moaning in a sexy voice, if you are in one room "forget" to put your knickers on, show off your sexy curves, look sensually in his eyes, give him a french kiss when he’s least expecting, if you are making out with him, try making out in front of the mirror and let me see your best physical assets and your sexual expressions.

Conclusion

The best thing about getting a man hard is that it not only helps you to understand his secret sex fantasies and desires but it’s also a wonderful way to play and win his attention.

Have fun experimenting and seeing what feels good. Some of the techniques will lead to an obvious sexual arousal response, but the goal of this guide isn’t to end up having sex... at least not necessarily! 🙂 

If sex happens it’s awesome and if not you’ll learn something as simple as that.

But once you learn the special, secret, hot buttons of your man....you can develop your own secret sexy language of making him hard at your whim. 

I will stop here. If you loved reading this guide on how to make him hard. 

Bookmark this page and try the variety of techniques and ideas mentioned in it. Try out a few...or try them all out! I bet the more you experiment, the more your own imagination will blossom. 

I will stop here. I hope you loved reading this powerful guide on how to make him hard and before you leave I’ve something amazing for you.

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About the Author Manish Yadav

My name is Manish Yadav and I’m the owner of the blog "Love Finds its Way". My advice does away with the manipulations and mind games recommended by magazines and the surface level advice of TV gurus… We’ll dive DEEP into the psychology and biology of desire and give you actionable steps you can use today. Over 900,000 men & women have transformed their relationships as a result, and I've been featured in Lifehack, Return of Kings, Menimprovement, Urban Dater, and so on... ...and no... We're not here to play games so you can manipulate your significant other... ...My only intention is to help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship by working on your intimacy with each other. And we’re just getting started!

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