As far I know they are low self-esteem men they are possessive and under achiever in their whole life span. That is reason they are called as insecure men with shy and quiet attitude initially when you meet them.
Insecure men are abusive for women to be in relationship with insecure men will always have bad experience and memories.
They are very tempting and disguised especially when you first meet them they are soft and quiet. You would never understand what’s actually going in their mind.
They would treat you like a queen, pamper you, compliments you all day and night without getting tired.
It’s really refreshing and great initially with insecure men. But later things take drastic turn when all his sweetness and attention move into a selfish obsession.
Being a girl it’s important for you to check those signs of insecurities in your man. Let’s find out in the below post what are the signs and symptoms of insecure men.
So that you could save yourself from his emotional clutches before getting into any intimate terms with him.
#1. He wants you to change your looks
When your relationship was new and exciting, he believed your look was striking and exotic. But as time passed he feels that you don’t need to wear lipstick, sexy clothes and any kind of makeup.
He believes he likes you in a simple way and now that you already have a sexy lover in your life.
You don’t need to display your curvy and sexy physical traits to the outside world. He strongly believes in his mind that you are trying to look sexier and hotter to attract another man.
This behavior of insecure men proves that he doubts your integrity and trust, even after you love him from the bottom your heart.
Remember a man who loves you will always trust you without trying to change you. He would always wish that his girlfriend should look best in her appearance not for other men, but to feel happy and confident from inside.
Insecure men play games, they are generally very distrustful in a relationship. He would always associate your name with your ex, even though you are not in touch with him. He would accuse you of having an affair with a co-worker just to keep check on you.
It’s because of his suspicious and doubtful nature. Insecure men are vulnerable in their thoughts due to their low self esteem.
Somewhere in his heart he too believes he is not fit for you. That is why he thinks you are also busy finding someone else to leave him alone to live prosperous life.
#3. His state of mind depends on you
His state of mind depends entirely on you. He wants to spend time only with you and for some reason if you avoid him. He would take it otherwise thinking you don’t care about him and his feelings.
He feels happy when you are around and feels sad when you leave him. Due to his insecurity he is trapped in vicious circle where he limits his life around you and finds it extremely difficult to come out his obsessed condition.
#4. He has fewer friends
He has no friends in his life. If he has someone in his life it’s you and only you. In his free time he constantly thinks about you as he has no other work to do.
He has no friend circle to hang out and he pushes you too to shrink your friend circle and stop hanging out with your friend especially male friends.
He wishes to change your whole appearance to match his kind of lifestyle which is clear signs of an insecure man who is not happy with life.
#5. He is overly protective
In the initial honeymoon phase of love life, most couples are paired at the hip which is totally acceptable.
As your relationship is new, life is high on sex so it’s fine and it also defines your relationship status in good way but not always.
Insecure men try to make sure to stay so close that nobody else should get close to you even after your relationship gets little old.
They are so insecure and obsessed that keep you calling hundred times in a day asking “Do you love me?”, “Where are you and with whom?”, “What are your plans for evening?”.
At times he might even force you to cancel your important plans just to hang out with him. And that is a definite signs of an insecure man who is emotionally challenged in his own obsession.
#6. You are his world
It feels absolutely wonderful when your man shouts out your name loudly in front of the entire world. It’s an amazing feeling to be with someone who makes you feel special and puts you on his top priority list.
But if you do things he doesn’t like you to do. He gets upset like he doesn’t appreciate you talking to your friends on phone or hanging out with a male guy. He assumes you are his life and doesn’t want to share you with someone else.
He thinks of you as private property and makes sure you live your life in his domain as per his instructions. Note that at first his possessiveness may feel special and attractive.
But later it turns into obsession when you realize you cannot do anything without his permissions. This kind of insecurity can make you feel trapped and suffocated due to his insecure behaviors.
#7. He tries to prove he is innocent
It’s a strong feeling in insecure men that they are very innocent. He constantly tries to prove you about his ex-girlfriends betraying him even though he was totally loyal and honest on his part.
The poison of insecurity is ingrained in his mind where he thinks he was being cheated and used in past relationships with girls.
He was always innocent and was left alone in the end. Note that he is very cunning and disguised he actually wants to make you feel pity for him.
By saying all this lies he wants to make sure you would respect his sentiments and never hurt or leave him in future.
Note that these are warning signs of a bad relationship where a man may ruin your life in the shadow of his insecurities.
#8. He keeps an eye at your cell phone
Insecure men are having bad habit of going through your personal texts and emails. His deep feeling of insecurity makes him vulnerable and somewhere in his heart he believes you are hiding something from him.
You might be smiling by looking at some old pictures but he thinks negatively and takes your smile in wrong sense.
You must be feeling insecure and hurt with this kind of unexpected behavior but you simply cannot do anything about it. If you ask him why he is doing it?
He would get angry and start to accuse you of having an affair with someone which is the reason why he thinks you don’t like him touching your cell phone.
#9. He is jealous of other males
Insecure men are so possessive towards their girlfriend that they don’t like any other male surrounding his girlfriend. He simply believes in his mind that all other males around the world want to date his girlfriend.
If you happen to talk or smile generally with someone he would get so jealous that he starts creating scene out of it.
Remember that it’s all happening in his mind because over a period of time he has ingrained this behavior as an integral part of his life.
Say for instance If he sees you from a distance talking to a man, he would imagine in his mind that he is trying to flirt with you.
It’s really dangerous to be with such a man because in future his obsession may turn into emotionally abusive behavior which is serious signs of insecurity in a relationship.
#10. He embarrasses you
Insecure men are abusive and frustrating at times that you cannot understand his freaky behaviors. He doesn’t like you having your own space while doing discussion on important matters.
If you are talking to someone on important issue or thing he would poke his nose in between to give weird solutions even though it is not related to him.
He embarrasses you in front of your friends by introducing himself as your lover just to make himself known which I believe is really a stupid thing to do.
He is so insecure that if you do something in his absence he will make you feel guilty. It’s because he feels desperate urge to get involve in everything you do.
Even if you are sharing a inside joke with someone you should keep him involved because he simply get jealous and annoyed watching you laughing and having fun with someone else.
These are some of the negative traits of emotionally insecure men. If you are surviving in a relationship were your man shows signs of insecurity in his behavior.
It’s time for you to think again and move on from such a negative and unhealthy relationship.
Note that you don’t need to feel guilty for leaving him you have done everything that you could to make this relationship work. But one person alone cannot carry burden of relationship for long.
Now it’s time if you are feeling insecure in your relationship than you must break the shackles.
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