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How to Teach Her The Best Blowjob Techniques to Enhance Your Pleasure

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Getting blowjob from the woman you love is like dream for most men. That is why today I am going to show you how to teach your woman the best blowjob techniques.

Your partner may have the best of intentions when it comes to oral sex, but there might be something she’s just missing.

Maybe her technique isn’t so great. Maybe she’s timid. Maybe she doesn’t use enough variety.

It may be intimidating for her to learn new blowjob techniques at first, but once she gets the hang of what stimulates you, she will feel like a sexual goddess knowing that she can make you come all by herself.

Oral sex on a male includes licking and sucking of the penis, balls, and anus. Fellatio is the term for the oral stimulation of the penis while analingus is the term for oral sex on the anus.

While blowjobs are considered rather exciting, “eating ass” and prostate stimulation is more of niche activity. Some men love it, while others could take it or leave it.

Keep in mind that every man is different. So just because what she is doing does not rock your boat does not mean she isn’t good or enthusiastic about giving your blowjob. 

It could just mean she’s used to something different. The key is to get her to enjoy the act too and not just make it feel like a chore.

In this guide we will cover:

  1. Setting The Stage For Blowjob.
  2. Tongue Play During Oral Sex.
  3. The Classic Oral Sex Positions.

Setting the Stage For Blowjob.

The key to enjoyment for most men is whether she’s into it or not. Let’s face it, there’s a reason it’s called a blow “job”; it does entail some work and it can hurt her jaw if she goes at it long enough.

Even if she does enjoy performing oral sex, it can’t hurt to bump up her enthusiasm. How do you do that?

Easy. When she’s down there savoring your man parts, tell her how hot she is and how turned you are.

Act as her own personal cheerleader. The more excited you are, the more excited she will be to keep going.

Plus if you know how to talk dirty to your girlfriend it will make you both even more aroused.

For more on how to talk dirty to your woman you can read my step-by-step guide Here.

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Sexy Moaning And Groaning.

This is not the time for her to keep quiet. Those gurgling, slurpy, sounds are undoubtedly hot.

Tell her how sexy she sounds moaning and groaning her enjoyment. And don’t forget to moan along with her so she feels more comfortable letting loose.

The Importance Of Eye Contact During Oral Sex.

Eye contact is critical during oral sex. It makes all the difference between a so-so oral sex session and amazing one.

Eye contact says, “I’m confident!” “I’m so turned on!” “I’m so aroused and ready!” So tell her to look at you. Or lift her chin up and tell her you love it when she looks at you. Talk about hot!

Teach Her To Add Variety in Her Blowjob Skills.

Just bobbing up and down is about as interesting as eating the same tuna casserole for dinner every night. It’s flat out boring.

She can move her lips. She can try deep throating. Or circling her tongue. Licking the shaft. This is not about just hopping from move to move like an erratic robot.

However she should be ready to pull out everything in her bag of blow job tricks. There are literally a million and one ways to mix up a blow job so encourage her to try new things.

Ask Her Tease You While Performing Oral Sex.

Teasing She may be all ready for the main event, but that doesn’t mean she has to go right to it with no warm up or foreplay

After all, if you just wanted to focus on the act itself you could jerk off or watch porn on your own. You have a delicious willing partner, so the two of you can engage in extended play.

Let her scratch your thighs and lick them slowly. She can even start playing with you while you’re still in your boxers. Finesse and teasing goes along way when it comes to a good session in the sack.

Before you begin, talk about what turns you on. Just going over some of the basics can get her ready for a great sex night.

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Use The Combination Of Her Mouth And Hands To Play With Your Penis.

Just sucking you off with her mouth might not be enough to make you cum.

When you jerk off yourself, you’re using your hands obviously; you’re not actually blowing yourself.

So what will work best is a combination of her mouth and hands. A simple “touch my shaft” or “jerk me off while your mouth is on me”, is one way to tell her to use her hands. Two hands can be even better.

Hands can go up and down, they can rotate, they can change speeds, increase or decrease in pressure, or stack on top of one and another. Of course her hands don’t need to just stay on your penis.

While her mouth is on your penis, her roving hands can go on your stomach, your balls, your thighs, your butt, or chest.

She can even use her hands to touch herself at the same time giving you a show as well. Talk about a win-win situation!

Spit or Lube What Would You Prefer.

You know what sucks, (no pun intended)? A blow job or hand job with not enough spit or lube.

A mouth on a wet cock is reminiscent of a moist vagina, so it’s important to make sure everything is well lubricated.

You don’t need lube here necessarily, just a lot of good old fashioned spit.

She might be loath to spit all over your penis, but for many men spitting on their member can be a major turn-on.

So when you start drying out, or she begins to reach for the lube, ask her to just spit on your dick.

If she really wants to use lube, there are many available on the market that you both might enjoy.

Different Varieties of Lubes You Can Experiment During Blowjob.

Flavored lube: With this she can swirl over your penis like icing. That way you can have fun watching her swirl it around your member. The only drawback is that it can become too sticky. The key is to not let it get anywhere else. Nothing worse than sticky sheets.

Water-based lube: These lubes are easy to clean but they dry easy so you’re going to need a lot of it to keep going.

Silicone lubricant: The wetness of silicone will last longer, but ingesting too much of it might make your partner sick.

Warming lubricants: These lubes warm up when you place them on your body. You might want to try a test patch with these first, as some people find these lubes a little too intense.

Tongue Play During Oral Sex.

Now that all the semantics are out of the way, let’s get down to the real nitty gritty; how to actually teach your woman the best blowjob techniques that'll drive you crazy.

Step 1: Tongue Play.

Opening her mouth in an “O” shape she can slowly take your penis into her mouth, licking the frenulum and playing with moving the head around her lips and licking the shaft.

Her tongue doesn’t just have to lick you in an up and down motion. She can move her tongue in circular motions, massaging your penis with it, and flicking her tongue as well.

Pushing your penis against your stomach she can lick the underside as well.

From here she can lick the corona, play with the frenulum, all the while playing with and touching your shaft. Next she can start to mimic thrusting by taking your dick in and out of her mouth.

Step 2: Using Her Hands During Blowjob.

Keeping one hand at the base of your shaft, she can start bobbing up and down on your penis as the other hand goes up and down or makes twisting motions.

Taking it a step further, she can use one hand to massage the perineum or stimulate the prostate (more on that later) as she’s going down on you.

Step 3: The Balls.

The often neglected balls need some attention too. She can give them love by sucking on them (known as “tea bagging”), swirling them around in her mouth, or playing with the skin in between.

She can also play with them as she’s blowing you as well.

Step 4: Putting it All Together For a Mind Blowing Blowjob Session.

So she has the basics down; lube, tongue, toys, balls, hands. All she has to do now is put that together in a way that’s pleasing to you and poof! Orgasm

The important thing to remember is when she gets in a steady rhythm that is working, it’s up to you to let her know that she’s on the right track and she should keep going.

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The Classic Oral Sex Positions.

You’re on your back and she’s bent over in front of you working her magic. OK so that’s nothing new. But you can mix it up with a few different sex moves.

  • Put a pillow underneath your butt so your genitals are more exposed and easier for her to reach. 
  • You can raise your legs over your shoulders. 
  • Prop your feet on her shoulders.
  • Hang your legs over the side of the bed.

On Her Knees Oral Sex Position.

Another classic position, this can become even more heated if you put one of your leg up on a chair so she has even easier access.

You can also face away from her so she can position her hands on your penis like you would, while she goes down on your perineum or anus.

The Starfish Oral Sex Position.

This oral sex position is so named because as you can imagine you are lying on your back like a starfish. 

She keeps your legs pushed wide apart while she goes down on you. She can hold your knees apart to make it even more exciting.

Sitting Oral Sex Position.

Sitting is great if your lady tends to suffer from fatigue. Her neck will get a rest with you in an easy access position. You can sit on a chair, a sofa, or a recliner.

If you want to be more imaginative, you can try a car hood, the kitchen counter, or a washing machine. Even better, you can massage or cup her head while she’s going down on you.

Face Sitting Blowjob Position.

This position is undeniably erotic and perfect if you want full genital to face contact. While she’s on her back you straddle her face with your knees on either side of her chest. 

Lean forward resting your hands on the bed frame or the wall in front of you to make it easier for you to stay up. You can lower or raise your body to put more of yourself in her mouth.

Ultimately you control the rhythm and pace. You can also have her bend her knees so you can lean back a bit for support.

Just be careful not choke her and make sure you have a signal between you guys should it become too uncomfortable.

From Behind Blowjob Position.

You may be used to her getting on all fours but now it’s your turn. Get down on your hands and knees. It gives her easier access to your rectal area.

She can start from the back performing analingus or simply arousing your perineum or inserting a toy into your anus.

She can slide underneath you as well and give you a blow job from underneath like a mechanic servicing a car. If you want to lower your penis further into her mouth lay on your arms.

Sideways Oral Sex Position.

This leisurely position can allow the two of you to intimately explore each other’s bodies while you’re getting serviced.

You can touch her breasts and genitals while she is playing with your cock and testicles. 

Try out different angles and see what works best for you. You can also move your leg up so that she has easier access to your genitals.

Backwards Throating.

All guys love a little deep throat action and this position makes it that much easier. Stand beside the bed.

Have her lie on the bed leaning her head off of it so that her mouth is right by your penis. She can control the rhythm by holding on to your thighs or legs or you can thrust by moving back and forth.

As an added bonus, you can lean over and play with her clitoris at the same time. You don’t have to limit yourself to the bed of course.

Look around your home and see what else could work. It’s all about experimentation.

The New 69 Oral Sex Position.

If you’re over the age of 13 (and I’m assuming you are) than you know what this position is. But there are some new twists you might not have thought of.

First of there’s 69’ing while standing. Yes it’s possible, if you’re both strong enough. If you’re still trying to figure out the positioning let me explain:

You’re standing while holding her upside down and she’s wrapped around you so her genitals are near your face and vice versa. There are two ways to get into this position.

You can stand in the Backwards Throating position and lean over to pick her up.

Alternatively you can have her do a headstand (against the wall if she can’t do it on her own) and then pick her up until your naughty bits meet up.

She’ll need to squeeze her legs together around your head and hold onto your legs to make sure she stays in place. You can also try 69’ing while sitting or kneeling.

It’s pretty much the same as the standing version except you’re sitting. This may not work on all heights but it’s worth a shot and may be easier than the standing version.

In Conclusion

It’s easy if you’ve been with someone for years to find your sex life is in a rut.

Over time, you go through the motion without asking questions anymore or discovering what makes the other person tick.

Sex is a great place to let go and not only be a stress reliever and cathartic but an amazing way to bring the two of you together.

Sexual exploration at the end of the day is meant to be spontaneous and fun. So although she has learned all of these methods, once she’s down there she has to let it go and allow herself to have fun. 

Even if she executed everything perfectly, you wouldn’t want her to behave like robot the whole time.

Sex with a partner you love dearly is a combination of physical desire and emotional connection.

To enhance this, it’s best to savor each other going slowly and taking the time to really play and explore with each other is what will make this an amazing sexual experience.

Now that she’s great at oral sex don’t forget to reciprocate when the time comes. And don’t forget to wash down there!

That's all from me. I believe you loved reading this amazing blog post on how to teach your woman the best blowjob techniques.

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About the Author Manish Yadav

My name is Manish Yadav and I’m the owner of the blog "Love Finds its Way". My advice does away with the manipulations and mind games recommended by magazines and the surface level advice of TV gurus… We’ll dive DEEP into the psychology and biology of desire and give you actionable steps you can use today. Over 900,000 men & women have transformed their relationships as a result, and I've been featured in Lifehack, Return of Kings, Menimprovement, Urban Dater, and so on... ...and no... We're not here to play games so you can manipulate your significant other... ...My only intention is to help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship by working on your intimacy with each other. And we’re just getting started!

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