May 6, 2022

Why Women Hate Giving Blow Jobs (8 Shocking Reasons Men Ignore)

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Why women hate giving blow jobs & men hate them for not doing it.

In my experience (and the experience of the guys I’ve worked with and the women I consulted when creating this report) there are 8 main reasons why women hate giving blow jobs (or why she will see it as a total chore and a “favor” if she does give you one.)

Some of these are really easy to deal with (seriously, just take a fucking shower.) Others take a little more effort on your part (but the rewards are definitely worth it.)

In this powerful report we’re going to get into the head of your woman around this whole blow job thing to find out why women hate giving blow jobs and understand what “going down” has come to symbolize in her mind.

Once you understand what giving you a blow job “means” to her, you’ll be well on your way to turning “giving you head” into her new favorite hobby.

So, if you’re ready let’s find out Why Women “Hate” Blow Jobs and Why Men Love Them

The 8 Nefarious Reasons- Why Women Don’t Like Giving Head (and being a man what you can do about it.

NOTE: The reasons below all come from my own personal experience and from conversations I’ve had with women ranging from 25 to 60. Some of the women I talked to are avowed “blow job lovers” while others are women who “just don’t like doing that.”

Study this list and mark off in your mind the reasons that seem to apply to your woman.

#Reason 1: Why women hate giving blow jobs.

She thinks “It’s Degrading To Women.”

It seems a little old fashioned to me, but a lot of women still think that giving you a blow job is degrading to women.

Due to cultural stereotypes, things they’ve seen in porn or feminist theory, they see fellatio as a way for men to show their domination and power over women.

And you know what? To some degree they’re right.

Yeah, yeah, I know. I’m not supposed to say that, but on a deep and primal level getting a blow job (or GIVING a blow job) IS about power, connection, service and submission.

It’s about one person doing everything they can to make another person feel good. And done right it can be a hell of a boost to the ego of both people in the equation.

This might sound unbelievable depending on how often you get head, but a lot of women actually LIKE the submissive aspect of giving blow jobs (more than you’d probably think.)

And I don’t know about you, but I definitely DO feel powerful and virile and just plain GOOD when my wife is going down on me.

I mean, there’s a reason we guys LOVE getting blow jobs in the first place and it’s not all physical.

There’s a damned good mix of power and fantasy mixed in there as well.

So while I agree that a blow job really can be about power (both your power over her and her power over you) I totally reject the idea that a blow job is “degrading” to women.

I believe it’s a 2 way process when you eat her pussy out or stimulate her clitoris to give her sexual pleasure and orgasm and in return she favors you. In the end it’s all about good sex and love making.

When we get to the “step by step” part of this report I’m going to show you how to “flip the switch” on how your woman thinks about blow jobs by taking control of her mind.

So instead of seeing it as something “degrading” and “humiliating” she sees it as a way of exerting her sexual power over you.

For now, I want you to do two things:

1. Accept the fact that getting a blow job is about more than just physical pleasure for you.

Deep down in your subconscious there’s a part of you that gets off on having a woman “worship” your cock and be completely dedicated to your pleasure. And you know what? That’s just fine.

I’ll tell you right now, if you’re in any way “ashamed” about your desire for a blow job it’s going to be a lot harder to make this work.

So just accept it. You want a hummer. In fact, you want a great, eager, fun, toe curling hummer. It’s cool.

2. Stop thinking of a blow job as something she “does for you” and start thinking of it as something you can SHARE together.

We’ll get more into this later, but on a conscious level I need you to start seeing blow jobs as a POSITIVE thing that you and your woman can do together that you BOTH should enjoy.

#Reason 2: Why women hate giving blow jobs.

She thinks it’s “Dirty down there.”

A lot of women don’t like giving blow jobs because they think guys are dirty, disgusting pigs.

And they’ve kind of got a point.

If you haven’t taken a shower in two weeks, are wearing the same underwear you had on during the Bush presidency and think soap is “some kind of commie plot against masculinity”… Well, there ain’t no way you’re getting head.

Listen: In this report I’m going to teach you EXACTLY how to get your woman to LOOK forward to giving you head and ENJOY it as much as you do.

But if you don’t do some “basic maintenance” first the whole thing is going to blow up in your face.

So here’s some basic stuff you need to do:

#1. TAKE A FUCKING SHOWER. Seriously, dude. Get in there with REAL soap and clean up the whole area. Spend some time on it and make your whole undercarriage (balls, cock, ass) as spotless as humanly possible.

Use some scented soap (something girly) so she can tell you actually cleaned up. (Women have MUCH more sensitive senses of smell than guys do.)

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#2. Be “conspicuously clean” and let her know it. OK, this is subtle but important. Make sure she KNOWS that you’ve cleaned up.

Next time you’re planning on getting amorous with your lady (or before you play the “sex games” do what girls do and “go freshen up.”

Here’s how it works:

• You finish dinner or come home from a date out with the woman.

• You start making out and getting things a little hot and heavy (maybe you used some dirty pickup lines to get her heated up.)

• Look her in the eye and say “I’ll be right back. I just want to go get clean for you.” Go take a shower, use soap, make sure she can hear what you’re doing.

She’ll notice. She’ll thank you. She’ll be much more willing to put ALL your body parts in her mouth.

#Reason 3:

The Gag Reflex (She Chokes)

OK guys, good news and bad news. The good news is that most women really can learn to deep throat over time (and it feels great.)

The bad news is that the odds are your wife or Girlfriend is NOT Linda Lovelace.

Do me a quick favor:

1. Take your index finger . . .

2. Shove it down your throat as far as possible.

3. See what happens (You probably GAG and feel that vomit reflex.)

Was that PLEASANT?

Was that something you LIKED?

Of course not.

And unless your woman is an “old pro” at giving head or a genetic freak with no gag reflex, she doesn’t like it either.

Most women I know HATED giving head the first couple times they did it because the guy they were with grabbed her head and made her choke.

And weirdly enough that traumatic event really colored the experience for her and made it something she didn’t want to do again.

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#Reason 4: Why women hate giving blow jobs

She Has Bad or Traumatic Memories.

This is actually a big one. A lot of women have bad memories of boyfriends or guys they were dating really making fellatio into a negative experience. Heck, you might be guilty of doing this yourself.

And (no way of avoiding this conversation) a VERY large percentage of the women in our society have either been raped or molested at some point in their lives.

If your woman has gone through something like this (and especially if it involved oral sex, which it often does) you’re going to have a harder road ahead of you. Not impossible, just harder.

No instructions for now, but bad memories are a huge reason so many women don’t like giving head.

I’ve talked a few guys through this situation, so email me directly at lovefindsitswaysolutions@gmail. com if you run into this particular bogeymen.

#Reason 5: Women Don’t Want To Give you a Head.

She Thinks “Good Girls Don’t Do That”

This one often comes from a religious or conservative upbringing where she was taught that giving head is a “sin” or something that “good girls” don’t do.

And guys actually make this WORSE by treating a blow job as the “holy grail” of sexuality or trying to PRESSURE her into doing it.

Getting over the “good girl” stigma is actually pretty easy. Just keep reading.

#Reason 6:

She’s Scared To Swallow/Doesn’t Like The Taste I blame porn. A lot of guys have this unrealistic expectation that women should be EAGER to swallow.

In the real world, women that really LIKE doing that are pretty rare (and treasured like the beautiful unicorns they are.)

For now, I want you to take swallowing off the table completely. That’s not what we’re going for yet.

Once you get more advanced you can learn some techniques for getting her to want to swallow and maybe even enjoy it. But you’ve got to crawl before you can skateboard.

#Reason 7:

She Thinks You’re A Hypocrite For Asking (And She Might Be Right.)

OK, I can’t even tell you how many emails I’ve gotten from women saying “Manish

I give my husband slow, deep, wonderful blow jobs but he REFUSES to go down on me! What do I do!”

Plain and simple, if you want your woman to get into the idea of giving you oral on a regular basis (and really getting INTO it) you’ve got to be willing and EAGER to do the same for her (going down on her)

Yeah, I know, some guys “hate” doing that, don’t like the smell, think it’s not “manly” or whatever.

And my advice to you is to GET THE FUCK OVER IT.

If you want to get, you have to give. And you have to give REALLY well. So next time you and your woman are going at it, kiss your way down her stomach, pray to whatever gods you worship and get to work. It’ll be worth it, I promise.

And last but DEFINITELY not least, the BIGGEST reason so many women don’t like giving blow jobs is…

#Reason 8:

She Doesn’t Think She’s Any Good At I

OK, this is actually huge.

When I was doing my research for this article I heard from woman after woman that one of the biggest reasons they didn’t like giving head was because they didn’t think they were any good at it.

Fact is most women have “low blow job self-esteem” and are petrified that you’re going to tell them what they’re doing “isn’t as good as your ex-girlfriend” or “doesn’t measure up in some way.”

(Tangentially, this low self-esteem is a huge part of the “sex problem” I see in so many relationships.

The woman doesn’t feel truly sexy, desired or “good” at sex, so she takes it off the table. This sometimes happens due to no fault of the guy at all.)

As you’ll see in my future article on giving blowjobs, a huge part of what I’m going to teach you is built around BUILDING up her sexual self-esteem (both around blow jobs and around sex in general.)

In fact, by the time you’re done with this material your woman will feel worlds better about her ability to please you in bed sexually, will actually ENJOY giving you head and will actually have improved her sexual skills by leaps and bounds.

Cool, huh?

I will stop here. In my next article just after this, I’ve laid out the reasons she won’t give you head, we’re going to dive head first into the “super ninja awesome part” of this report and show you EXACTLY what to do to turn your woman into a blow job enthusiast.

Make sure you go through and recap your instructions from this report (especially the stuff around cleanliness and making sure she knows you’ve cleaned yourself up) and then move on to the next article.

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  1. I would frequently give my wife oral, especially when it appeared that she wasn’t going to climax any other way (about half the time). Yet the number of blow jobs I got from her was small. I stopped giving it to her when three times in a row I got throat infections because she wasn’t keeping herself clean (she claimed to be allergic to soap down there).

    She was rarely enthusiastic about participating in sex, just lying there like a starfish and letting me use her vagina to masturbate with. She seemed relieve when I stopped approaching her for sex.

    I wish I’d know she would become this after marriage. I wouldn’t have said “I do”.

  2. Tell the truth. Sucking a penis hurts a woman’s mouth and she gets nothing out if the act. It’s horrible to women.

  3. I don’t know why some think it’s demeaning. I’ve given a lot of blow jobs, and have always felt satisfaction in what I had accomplished. Many would be amazed at how many men exchange blow jobs, if they aren’t getting them at home.

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