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Why Men Pull Away And Withdraw 8 Shocking Reasons You Must Know


Why Men Pull Away and Withdraw After Getting Close? A very frustrating question that every women comes across in her life.

If you too are frustrated by your man who's pulling away at early stages or maybe he was close, but now he's ignoring your calls and taking you for granted, then it's time for you to think and do something about it.

If this is your situation don't worry the doctor is here to help, you have stumbled at the right page.

Now even before you think of making him want you badly and come back, the first step is to identify the reasons why he is pulling away and withdrawing from you.

Why do men pull away? Do they find you less interesting or the romance and sexual chemistry has faded away or he has found someone new.

It could be anything, but unless you find the true reasons why he is getting distant from you, it will be hard to find the right solution for your problem.

Now, if you really love him and seriously want to know the reasons behind why men pull away after getting close, please read this post till the end.

I will try to keep it interesting and at the end of this post, I will suggest you with the right solution for your problem and what you can do to get his attention back on you again.

1. Don't Get Anxious or Distracted If He's Pulling Away Or Trying to Withdraw.

Men are unstable creatures by birth, it's hard for them to stay constant and connected at one particular thing.

It's even harder when it comes to woman they love. Being a woman you must understand that pulling away is quite natural for a man, even if he’s with you.

It's not that he don't love you, it's just that he feels somewhere being tied by you so he’ll try to pull back in order to not lose himself.

One instance he will shower his love and pamper you like a little kid, second instance he will ignore as if there's nothing between you and him.

His behavior is like a rubber band that comes in and goes out. It's because he feels somewhere he's losing his freedom and space. 

So, if this is your situation, I suggest you not to get distracted or anxious as it would only spoil your relationship with him.

In fact give him time and realize one thing, If he’s the perfect guy for you and he really loves you, these withdrawal phase will shorten over time.

The only thing you need to do is give him the space and freedom he requires and wait for your relationship to unfold.

2. Are You Acting Like a Clingy and Needy Woman.

No offence, I am sorry I didn't mean to say something wrong. But he maybe pulling away and getting distant from you.

Often, women don’t even realize when they’re showing signs of a clingy tendency. But men are super sensitive to clingers and always pick up on these.

I will reveal some signs of a needy and clingy woman if any of the signs meet your situation, I request you to think over it and change your attitude.

Once again I am not trying to make you feel down, I just want to help you understand why do men pull away and ensure that he comes back crawling again into your life.

  • Do you constantly feel like being with him all the time?
  • Do you try to manage and organize his life as per your will?
  • Do you try to be over nice with him? for instance if he sneezes once or have little cold, you get so anxious that you end up spending 2 hrs making pot of soup.
  • Do you stay at his home even when he want you to go?
  • Do you constantly try to impress his mom and sister?
  • Do you keep calling him asking where he is and what he is doing?
  • Do you keep sarcastic approach about other women while talking to him?
  • Do you constantly remind how much you love him?
  • Do you change all your plans and events for him every time?
  • Do you agree with him on every thing he has to say, just because you don't want to hurt him or maybe you're afraid of losing him
  • Do you keep talking about your ex every time.
  • Do you ask him to take you on outing with his male friends.

Now even before you give your thoughts to the above questions. I want to clear you one thing which is very significant.

There's no harm in doing all these stuffs, absolutely not.

But the problem arises when you over do all these stuffs, that's when men pull way even after being so close.

If you really want to know what to do when men pull away, You must learn how to create right balance to keep your relationship strong and healthy.

3. Are There if's and but's in your relationship.

However good is your relationship with him, but there will always be some sort of conflicts.

And it's absolutely normal to have if's and but's without it true love just cannot exist.

It is also said that couples who fight a lot are more deeply connected to one another, than those who takes things casually.

What I want to say is doubts are normal, especially as your relationship deepens. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are less dedicated toward him.

Maybe he's trying to withdraw because he’s not totally prepared for a serious relationship, or maybe he’s not convinced in his heart that you're really the woman he want to spend his entire life with.

No doubt it feels like someone ripped your heart in pieces, but you have to accept the fact and move on if he feels that way as love can't be forced.

I am a live example of that my girlfriend and I were immensely in love with each other, still we ended up, she married my best friend.

It's not necessary that two people mad in love will always have common thoughts, just because they love each other.

No it's not true, if this was true you would never see broken hearts and lonely people in the world.

Now the question is what to do when men pull away?

The answer is try to find out the reasons behind him trying to pull away and getting distant from you without getting obsessed for him.

As it will only worsen your situation and you don't want that. Instead stay calm and composed.

For most women, when this sort of situation arises the very first step they take is to try to fix the relationship by getting closer to him and pulling him closer to us.

This comes in the form of constantly poking him what’s wrong, or calling him often.

Just don't do that  this approach will only drag him away even further and ruin your relationship even more.

Have some patience and wait for the right moment to talk to him, instead of jumping at him and bombarding him with questions.

Try and understand his situation, he's pulling way maybe because he want some space or maybe he's stressed out due to excess work load, or maybe he's not happy with your continues interference in his life.

It could be anything and you need to figure out but in the right way with the right approach and mindset.

What To Do When Men Pull Away?

As I said above wait for the ideal time when he's in good mood, calm, composed, happy and relaxed, it will help both of you to built better communication.

Now discuss with him whether he genuinely want this relationship, is there something that's pinching him, is he not happy about something within the relationship.

Whatever his answers are, you have to be very patient and concise.

 "Now ask him what can I do to improve and make things better and be bold enough to tell him that if you are not happy I am ready to walk away".

The moment you will talk of walking away, trust me this words will hit him hard and get him emotional (if he really loves you) and that's when the new story will begin slowly.

Also, if you think practically you will realize, love can't be forced and you will have to let him make the choice to be with you or not instead of trying to force it.

If you do, it will be much stronger when he decides he wants to be with you again, and it will feel much better for both of you. 

4. Do You Really Respect Him?

Do you know that "Men crave respect, even more than love" They equate respect with love.

Now I want to ask you, do you really respect your man think about it for a second in your mind.

Don't worry if you are confused I will guide you with a simple example.

For instance, you guys are in a good friends party and you are busy gossiping with your friends.

Are you doing something wrong? Absolutely not there's no harm in gossiping with your friends.

But he will definitely take it in the wrong way as he may assume you are not attending him or giving importance.

This is were things go wrong, He may forget what you said, but he will never forget how you made him feel.

So better focus on respecting, loving and giving him what he craves for.

Believe this is also one of the reasons why men pull away, this is just a simple example, but there are many instances like this which he will probably remember.

Men and Women are two different species with different motivations, emotions, hormones, drives and feelings.

In the interest of providing a broad survey of these differences between men and women, researchers and authors have failed to reveal the immense power of powerful difference between men and women.

It’s one of the most powerful ways you can connect with a man on a deep emotional level and if you fail to connect with him he will try to withdraw and pull away.

And that powerful difference is respect principle we discussed above "Man crave respect even more than love" and this is one aspect or good quality every men want in a woman.

If given a choice, men would rather be respected than loved.

Because respect is directly connected with man's ego and most men if not all consider the respect principle as the binding factor in the context of his relationship with you.

5. Is He Pulling Away Due to Lack of Sexual Intimacy.

Sex is on top priority in any man's life, they feel connected to woman when they have sex and women seek emotional connection first and than sex. How's your sex life with your guy?

Maybe the initial romance and sexual attraction has started to fade away.

Just like a little kid gets bored with his new toy after some days or weeks, it's amazing and thrilling for the first few days and weeks and as time passes by the physical attraction is totally gone.

The reason is at the start of a new relationship our brain releases dopamine which is a feel good chemical.

It has pleasing effect just like a drug. It feels like heaven to both men and women which eventually builds your sexual attraction very strong.

As I said above when it becomes a daily routine dopamine stops being released in both of your brains and suddenly the intimacy and sexual attraction is not as spontaneous as it was initially.

If this is where it fades, then maybe it was your brains doing all the work, and now its up to you two to keep the fire alive through work.

This is again one of the critical reasons why men pull away after coming so close.

If your relationship fall under this category, you will have to discover new ways to spice up your sex life and keep it alive.

6. Do You Try to Look Attractive Especially When He's Around.

No one can deny the fact that men crave sexual attraction and beauty. Do you know initial phase of attraction between men and women are particularly influenced by visual appeal.

It’s because men are visual creature and they fantasize what they see and even more about what they do not see.

What most women fail to understand is how important it is that your man believes you put effort into looking attractive for him in particular.

As looking good is the feel good factor that drives every man wild for women and it becomes more important at Later stages in the relationship as it unfolds

Somehow if he sense that you are not exercising and taking good care of yourself, especially when he's around and his presence don't matter to you he will definitely withdraw and pull away.

What to do if this is your situation and stop him from withdrawing?

You need to manage your appearance by looking attractive which will certainly make it easier for him to feel attracted to you which will also influence him on an emotional level too.

If you're with a really great guy and you want to end up being "the one for him," don't underestimate the power of taking care to look your best.

Now you may be wondering I'm not attractive and tempting like other women around.

Trust me you don't have to be more attractive than other women.

You don't have to have model figure and looks. You just need to be what you are and try your best to improve in what you have.

The idea behind doing this is he will appreciate your commitment of going out of your way to impress him.

This will make him feel proud of being with woman like you. It will eventually make him to think of you as someone he wants to spend his life time.

7. Do You Hide Certain Things From Him?

Many women have tendency of hiding things from their man, doesn't matter good or bad things.

But they don’t tell their men about their feelings and needs, as they don’t want to bother their men, but the fact is hiding your feelings is a form of miscommunication and sends the wrong message.

Men Are Uncertain and Suspicious By Nature They Want You to Be Transparent and This is Yet Another Reason Why Men Pull Away and Withdraw.

By not telling you leave them in the dark. You need to share your whole life with them but, you actually share only some part of it and no men will appreciate this.

Remember relationships develop by sharing things and walking together and not by walking single and living life separately.

By hiding things you are creating a wall in the loving space of your relationship which will eventually ruin your relationship over time if not today.

Don't give them chance to doubt your integrity as he will lose the trust and respect he has for you and eventually pull away and that's not something that you want.

8. Is He Seeing Someone.

​Well this is not always true, still you cannot deny the probability of your man seeing some other women without your knowledge, this is usually defined by avoiding you, not attending your calls or not calling you back, trying to manipulate things by giving stupid reasons this are signs he's losing interest in you and seeing someone else.

  • Does he argue with you on small issues now a days?
  • Has your sex life turned stale over the past few months?
  • Does he make plans and cancel at the last moment?
  • Has he stopped discussing about his future with you lately?
  • Does he seems to pretend and shy away from his responsibilities toward you.

​If you observe all these signs in your man maybe he is trying to find a way out of this relationship which is the reason why he's pulling away. 

These are 7 major points why men pull away at early stages and than they slowly want to withdraw.

It all happens when the woman feels like she’s getting closer to her goal, she's happy in her relationship.

Than suddenly something unwanted and undesired happens which makes her feel like her world is falling apart.

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I will conclude here and I hope you found this post useful and if it helped even a tiny bit please do not forget to share it with other women around you.

See you again in a new post, till than have a nice day and don't forget to watch the free video above.

About the Author Manish Yadav

My name is Manish Yadav and I’m the owner of the blog "Love Finds its Way". My advice does away with the manipulations and mind games recommended by magazines and the surface level advice of TV gurus… We’ll dive DEEP into the psychology and biology of desire and give you actionable steps you can use today. Over 900,000 men & women have transformed their relationships as a result, and I've been featured in Lifehack, Return of Kings, Menimprovement, Urban Dater, and so on... ...and no... We're not here to play games so you can manipulate your significant other... ...My only intention is to help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship by working on your intimacy with each other. And we’re just getting started!

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