13 Tantric Sex Touch Techniques To Be The Sex God in Bedroom

So let's start with a principle that I call the slow, light touch rule. You start here to trigger arousal for woman, and it's simply by touching a woman in a slow light manner.

This lets her know that you're not grabby. This lets her know that you are in control of yourself and your body and your cock.

It's just so easy to start this way. Just slow it down; you need a slow and light touch.

This slow and light touch works, even a contrasted touch – let's say you use a strong pressure, a firm grip, and then you go to really soft.

That's the contrast technique that we spoke about earlier, but that kind of touch begins this physical dialogue with her body so that you're beginning to speak to her body in the language of pleasure.

Pleasure is awesome. You start to touch her in a way that you are communicating, "I know what I'm doing."

So you go from a light touch to a firmer touch to a super light and soft touch. Sometimes I'll just use the soft, light, and slow touch rule and that's enough.

That will trigger everything I need it to do, and it is the simplest technique in the world because it's so powerful and it's so simple; you just touch lightly.

If you take your fingertip across her skin and you just trace lightly on her arm so you barely feel your fingertip on the surface of her skin, touching her hair and her skin in the lightest way, you’ll get the hang of it.

There are so many receptors on her skin that it's enough to move her into a very deep, powerful sexual trance, like a just complete relaxation and very, very intense feelings.

It lets her know that you are in control of the experience because if you weren't in control you would not be able to do that specific thing.

So light touch means you can control your body and light touch means that you know how to stimulate and play her body like an instrument and make her sexually addicted to you.

#1. The Closed-Touch Technique

So there are six types of Tantra sexual techniques and, of course, there are thousands if not millions of different types of sexual techniques, and they generally fall into six different types of touch techniques.

The first touch technique is closed touch.

These are the things that instantly repel women sexually and if you don't know how to avoid these, this will directly affect the results you're getting in bed.

So there are guys who essentially master a game. they master the ability to meet women and get women addicted to sleeping with them, but then they get into bed and all these other things trigger and it goes nowhere.

By way of example, I heard an awful story recently about somebody who understands the psychology of women in terms of meeting and attracting, but then when he finally got this one young woman into bed, things went awry.

As he was telling me this story, he was so happy, like "Yeah, I got her into bed" and he was going on and on and on as if it was some victory.

All I could think about was this poor, young girl who's about 19 years old – that this was one of her first sexual experiences – and how traumatic it was for her and what that does to the rest of us out there.

Because now, every time a woman has an experience with a horrible lover or somebody who humiliates her or shames her or cums in three seconds and doesn't worry about her pleasure.

Every time that happens, it essentially makes it harder for the rest of us to have sex with her, to open her up, to allow her to relax and release, because her trust level goes down.

Then she starts questioning her instincts. She's like, "Wow, I thought this guy would be cool and it turns out he was a total a-hole. I wonder if I can really trust myself."

As she starts to question whether she can trust herself, the whole process slows down and sexual access slows down and sexual pleasure slows down.

Closed touch is really important to understand because there are all kinds of things you are doing right now that are communicating to a woman that she is less than safe with you.

If you don't know what those things are and you don't understand them and you don't start correcting them now, you need to start correcting those immediately.

#2. The Sexual-Arousal Technique and Its Triggers

The second type of touch technique is the sexual arousal technique and its triggers.

These are triggers that naturally get a woman turned on sexually, physically, and mentally.

These are things that you will learn are just natural elements.

If I touch in a certain way or touch in a certain location of touch with a certain quality, it immediately triggers a response in her body.

So you want to be aware that there's not one technique. I don't have one technique, a magic technique, an "Oh, I'll touch her here and she cums right away" technique.

That's like high-school thinking.

There's no one technique because of all of the factors I've already discussed, but there are things you can pay attention to and open up your awareness and your framework to start to understand that sexuality is a mindset and also a skill set.

For example, there was a situation where I was just touching my lover in a certain way, and I noticed on this particular day I was squeezing her.

I was just making a little squeezing motion and all of a sudden her breath changed instantly.

It was just a little something I had never done before, and suddenly it was turning on her entire body, and it happened just like that.

It was stunning, but it wasn't like, "Oh, this is the magic technique that will work on every woman.

"No, it was paying attention to what was happening and being tuned into her and noticing that as soon as I touched her in this way, there was like a [gasp].

"Ahhh," like that kind of sound, and I did it again and there was the same kind of sound. Suddenly you realize, oh okay, this is a touch and sexual arousal trigger for her.

Then everything changes instantly. It's strange.

You're basically triggering her sequence of foreplay, what I call pre-play really, these things that start to get her body moving and turned on and get her breath moving and her blood pumping and getting her tissue, all the erectile tissue in her body beginning to swell.

These are beautiful tantra sex techniques. These are just beautiful and they can be non-sexual.

They can be physical techniques. They can be mental seduction techniques.

There are more advanced techniques which I will share with you in my future articles that build on these, but you really want to start with the beginning.

For example, if you haven't mastered closed touch which means, in other words, if you haven't broken those habits, there's no way you're going to get to the more advanced techniques because you'll be shooting yourself in the foot.

#3. Breathing Techniques

We'll also go over breathing techniques. Women respond to a specific set of sexual cues and you need to know what these are if you want her orgasm.

So one of them is breathing techniques. There are breathing techniques that allow her to get calm.

There are breathing techniques that allow her to relax. There are breathing techniques that allow her to begin to open her arousal and even her orgasm.

#4. Sound Techniques.

There are sound techniques. In sex, silence is death. Once you know what these techniques are, you will be able to master her relaxation.

Sound is essential. Most of us, for whatever reason (well I do know what our reason is – because of sexual shame and guilt and because of lots of really horrible religious programming).

Most of us believe that pleasure is bad or evil or wrong and we believe that pleasure should be done behind closed doors or not at all.

So what this means is that, as men, you've probably learned to self-pleasure or masturbate in such a way where you do it really fast and you get it over with quickly.

Or you orgasm quickly and you do it quietly, and maybe there's a little grunt and, boom, let me get a towel or jump in the shower, and then you clean off and clean up, because that was dirty, and then you're on to your day.

Most males are wired with some version of this. So there's no sound, no voice.

There's one frantic hand movement and ejaculation and it's like, okay, boom, over.

So we really have to step out of the silence factor because the silence factor is really hurting your sex life more than you have any clue.

So that includes music. It includes environmental sounds.

It includes managing the space so that things sound good around you, but it also manages your voice and the quality of speaking and communication that you have available.

#5. Deep-Pleasure and Flow Techniques.

Then we have the deep pleasure and flow techniques and there are certain routines and you can utilize them to bring her into total ecstasy and pleasure and it works.

It happens. I use them all the time and these techniques alone will keep her coming back for more because they're so profound and they're beautiful for her.

I really believe when it comes to sex, we really need to leave the campsite better than we found it.

If you're going to enter her and enter her world and experience her and participate with her and share in a sexual experience, you may as well leave her better than how you found her because honestly you're screwing it up for any other men that come after you by screwing this process up and it really is sad.

I think, because you have all these unhappy and sexually frustrated women and you have all these unhappy and sexually frustrated men and men who start hating women.

I hear these things all the time and really, men and women both want the same things. We both want pleasure. We both want sex.

We both want to experience and have experiences, but we have really, again, through cultural myths and stories and our beliefs around pleasure and sex in general, all these really horrible things that we do to women in terms of calling her a slut and whore if she's too sexual and she's only allowed to have five partners.

I forgot, there was some ridiculous study and basically men's ideal for a woman's sexual history is more than three sex partners but less than five, and if she had more than five, then she became undesirable.

This is insanity, this kind of programming. I will deal with this in future more advanced articles down the road, but that mentality, that framework, is truly insane.

#6. Cultural Beliefs Separating the Sexes.

So what that does is it creates women feeling like they have a number and most women, if you really press the issue, they know exactly how many lovers they've had unless they've broken this particular framework and there's a number.

They're like, "Oh, if I exceed this number, then I'm a whore. I'm a slut."

So every time you're interacting with a woman sexually, you're interacting with these deep-seated cultural beliefs that basically separate the sexes.

So she has to defend against her sexuality because she has a limited number and if she surpasses that number then she becomes "damaged goods" and for a man, he's constantly trying to increase the number because that increased number proves that he's got sexual prowess and he's worldly or whatever.

"I'm more of a man because I've had sex with more girls."

So these are two very different strategies that come out of religious programming.

So you have these things in conflict, and every time you're interacting, whether it's from seduction to just actually being in bed, you're encountering these conflicts, the inner conflicts for her.

So she's forced to have to decide, especially when it comes to choosing to have sex but also choosing to continue to have sex, she has to decide, do I do this?

Do I go for this? Do I just go for the experience? Am I going to invest in this experience? Am I going to gain something from this experience?

Ninety-eight percent of the time, women have sex and they're like, "What was the point of that?"

So you definitely don't want to be that guy, and these deep pleasure and flow techniques, these are going to help you really be something and someone different.

#7. Bonding Techniques in Tantra Sex.

Then finally there's bonding techniques and touches. These are techniques that cause the release of hormones in her body.

They'll stimulate oxytocin and you want to use these techniques wisely because they're very powerful and they can create very powerful sensations of bonding and love and connection and intimacy.

They're beautiful techniques and you, as a fully sexually empowered man, you need to be able to go to these places with a woman and feel confidence enough in yourself to be that vulnerable, because they're really beautiful spaces.

Guys who go through their lives . . . and I've met them, I mean, I've worked with guys who are in their 60s and 70s who have never opened up to a woman, who have never had the experience of being vulnerable.

I was doing a demonstration recently and there was a married man in his 60s who came up to me, and I was doing a live demo of some female genital massage techniques and he was like, "Can I come up and look? I've never seen a pussy live, up close."

So here's a guy who's married, who's basically had sex with his wife with the lights off. What he really wants to do is look at her body, and yet they don't have any communication.

So it was kind of shocking and I was like, "Don't you have oral sex with her ever?" Have you ever eaten her pussy juices? Or have you ever stimulated her clitoris?

And he was like, "Yeah, lights are always off, and it's pitch black, and I'm under the covers, and it's only for a little bit of time." It was just stunning.

So he came up, a guy in his 60s, and was just looking at my demo model's pussy and looking at me doing the massage techniques and he was just dumbfounded.

It was really stunning. So these techniques do not fall off the truck. These are techniques that need to be practiced and learned.

We're not born with them. We really need to be taught everything and you're going to begin to start at square one, in essence of tantra sex.

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