It's very easy for a man to fall in love, but equally hard to keep that commitment of love for life long. Most men are scared to commit and in this post is for you if your guy is showing signs he is confused about his feelings.
You maybe wondering why is he showing signs of confusion?
Why is he still not sure about his feelings? Don't worry you'll learn everything step by step today.
#1. It is your behavior that confuses him and stops him from committing.
There many be something about your behavior right now that is triggering something deep down inside him that is telling him you are not The One.
And, it’s more than the fear-inducing behavior which pushes him to ignore you.
To give you an idea of what I mean about his feelings toward you, if his love for you were a traffic light, it would be lit up in amber.
Not red – at least, not yet – and definitely not green. It is a dull yellow, that color that tells you that maybe you shouldn’t go forward as you’d planned.
And until it is green, he won’t race ahead and give you that big chunk of bling – or the love and devotion you deserve.
You see guys have this weird, deep-seated need to live an EPIC LIFE. They want to believe that they are able to achieve extraordinary things.
And I mean really extraordinary – I don’t know a man alive who doesn’t secretly think he could win a Superbowl or become a rock star, if only given the chance.
And one major part of being extraordinary is having an extraordinary woman by their side.
To remove your man's confusion you have to make him feel that you are the one, you are that extra ordinary woman that he always wanted.
Steps to remove his confusion an make him sure that you're the only one for him.
#1. He needs you to satisfy his need for a woman who is sexy.
#2. It’s not the looks ... it’s the EFFORT that really counts to a man.
The problem with this simple truth is that hardly any women believe it! You think that with so many drop-dead gorgeous women out there, it would be impossible that he would only have eyes for you.
But, that is how attraction works. There is no rhyme or reason to it; it just happens. What matters is how you sustain that initial attraction.
Which takes me back to my point that you should make the effort to look good.
Here’s how to do that:
#2. Eat well.
Balance and moderation are the keys to eating well. Take it one meal at a time. And just in case you were wondering, no, you don’t need that entire pint of ice cream. No, French fries are not a vegetable. Yes, a nice,
big, healthy salad can be a delicious meal.
This may be the worst word in the English language. I know it makes me want to immediately take a nap. But you don’t have to go to the gym for hours or train for a marathon. Swimming, walking, taking a fun class with some friends, yoga, learning how to ballroom dance.
#4. Dress decently.
Remember how I mentioned living in sweatpants above? Yeah, stop that.
Choose to put on your cute jeans instead. Just like how men are told to “suit up” and stop wearing their favorite band t-shirts, so too am I telling you that it is time to bring your wardrobe A-Game when you are going to see him.
#5. Show off your beauty.
That's what men want, if your hair is constantly in a ponytail because it is too much of an effort to style it, either make the time, or get a new haircut that is easier to maintain.
Take two seconds to throw on some mascara and lip gloss. Treat yourself to a facial every once in a while. Keep your nails looking nice.
Obviously, what makes you sexy to him is unique to you. But chances are, if you are observant at all you know what it is about you, physically, that thrills him. So what are you waiting for? Show it off, girl!
#6. He wants you to be confident.
When it comes to confidence. It means the desire, and ability, to try new things – even if you think that you may fail at it. (Here I go again, talking about making an effort!
Do you sense a trend here?!) Saying yes is sexy – constantly saying no or giving excuses is definitely NOT sexy. And your this behavior pushes him lose interest in you and show signs he is confused about his feelings.
Also, when you are confident, you make a better impression – which goes back to what I was saying about him being in competition with other men.
If he introduces you to people and you give them a great smile, a warm
handshake and a confident “Hello,” you are going to be remembered well. That goes a long way with him.
I have one final thought about confidence that I would like to share. Your
mom probably told you this back in junior high, when you started to become self-conscious about your looks.
Well, guess what? Mom was right: The more confident you feel, the better you look. It’s like a magic diet!
#7. He needs you to be cool.
And by “cool,” I mean you’re chill. You go with the flow. You’re not hysterical or nervous or shy. You don’t cause drama when you are not the center of his attention at all times.
Basically, he wants to know that you will be OK in a wide variety of situations.
If he has to worry about how you will act or react to certain situations, that is not going to compel him to do anything but leave you at home.
He wants you by his side, so show him that you are game for anything.
Again, this is about saying yes instead of no. He wants to bring you along to his buddies’ bowling night?
Sure, I am down with that. He needs you to be his date for a formal event? I am your girl! He needs to feel appreciated and comfortable taking you pretty much anywhere.
You’d be surprised at how important this is for a man. So if you can master the art of being cool, you are going to go a long way with him.
Maybe all the way and he will never shows signs of confusion about his feelings for you.
#8. He needs you to be independent.
I don’t think any man would point to a woman he is attracted to and say that it is her sense of independence that is such a turn-on; but I will say that more often than not, when a man can’t put his finger on exactly why he loves her, usually it is because she has an independent streak a mile long.
An independent woman is like cat nip for men. Maybe it is because she triggers the chase in them, or maybe it is simply because she doesn’t seem to need him as much.
But whatever it is, it is wildly attractive. The opposite of this, of course, is a needy woman – and there is nothing that makes a man run faster in the opposite direction than a needy woman.
That’s because with a needy woman, a man feels way too much responsibility to make her happy.
While a man won’t shirk most responsibilities, he is not dumb – he knows when the task is too much for him to handle.
So, he doesn’t want to be constantly tending to your needs.
He doesn’t want to worry that you are going to freak out because he is not spending his time with you. And he really doesn’t want to feel like he is your only friend.
The good news is that it is oh-so-easy to show him that you’re an
independent woman: Just live your life!
Just keep doing what you were already doing, while also making time to
see him. It’s a good thing! This will clear his confusion and negative feelings about you.
#9. He needs you not to be obsessed with commitment.
A lot of avoiding this one can be accomplished by being confident and independent.
After all, when you are confident, you know he loves you and wants to be with you, so you won’t be worrying about needing him to put a ring on it to prove it to you.
And when you are independent, you’re able to stand on your own two feet; you don’t need him to validate your existence.
This is also a pretty easy feat to pull off, because all you need to do, basically, is nothing.
Sure, when it is appropriate, you should feel free to discuss your future together.
That is about being confident and about having a plan for your
life that you wish would include him in it.
But otherwise, on a day-to-day basis, simply show him that you’re happy to be with him – him personally – for who he is.
The thing is, this seems to be incredibly difficult for many women to do.
Whether it is because they have some personal timeline they feel they need to abide by, or because they have friends who are all getting married, it’s like a switch goes off in their heads and they become singularly focused on marriage.
It gets so bad, in fact, that the guy feels like she would be willing to marry ANYONE at this point – the fact that it is him makes no difference at all.
How do you think a man would react to that realization?
As I said before, men aren’t dumb. If your guy is good enough that you have been with him long enough that marriage is something that could be on the horizon, trust me – this has not escaped his mind. He knows how relationships progress, and what the next steps are.
Chances are, he has though about marriage, too – and hopefully, it has come up in conversation with you, even in an abstract sense.
He knows what he needs to do, and he has his own plan.
The question is, do you trust him enough to execute that plan?
#10. He needs to admire and respect you.
Admiration and respect are kind of abstract concepts that are hard to define or give you an action plan for.
But to give you a better idea of what this means, we will call it the Brag Factor.
A guy worth having – especially a guy who could have his pick of women – needs you to have the Brag Factor, and have it in spades.
What is the Brag Factor? Well, it depends on the woman.
There’s not one thing I could tell you to have or do that automatically gives you the Brag Factor. But what I can do is give you some examples.
• Sitting on the couch all day and watching TV while you collect
• Living like a princess – on Daddy’s money.
• Having a hard job – and complaining about it all the time.
Things like that are going to earn you exactly no admiration or respect from him.
I believe this 10 powerful points are GOOD ENOUGH to help you understand why he is revealing signs of confusions in his behavior and feelings about you.
All you need to do is to eliminate all the bad stuffs and put together the good stuffs to build the emotional connection with him.
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