Do you really wish to know what men want from women in a relationship? If yes continue reading.
Today you’ll discover how to become a magnet for the love you want.
You'll discover how to make him desire you and get him to effortlessly open up to you, stop pushing you away, and truly give you the love and commitment you want.
But before that you need to truly understand what your man want from you and believe me it is something more than ROMANCE, SEX AND LOVE.
It is that one word RESPECT.
And that’s what men want the most and if you’re not giving this one thing then you’ll definitely turn him off.
The deep dark secret that men carry around with them every single day of their lives is that they want to be respected. They crave it.
And the thing is, you see it all the time, all around you, every day.
At its worst and most base level, it is what makes men get into fist fights. Every fight can be boiled down to the fact that one of the men felt disrespected by the other one.
At its best and most grandiose, well, it is probably part of the reason why America put a man on the moon – to earn the respect of whole nations.
In any case, the desire for respect is as innate in men as is the ancient desire to chase their prey.
So, how do you give him the one thing he secretly craves?
Well, this is a tricky one, because sometimes it can feel like you are deferring to him, or somehow being subservient.
Because, let’s face it, ladies – sisters are doing it for themselves these days, and there’s no turning back.
And I just got through telling you to be all independent and confident and not to need him so much!
But instead of being the opposite of the previous advice, showing him respect complements it.
Essentially, by showing him you respect him, is the single best way to show him you love him and also keep him in love with you.
Especially if you work hard to show him that you stand on your own two feet and can make your own choices in life.
OK, so let’s find out exactly what men want from women.
#1. Stop belittling him and bitching at him.
Don’t be the housewife in those daytime commercials we talked about. Prop him up, don’t cut him down.
Even if it’s because he forgot to take the trash out again, it makes him feel like a failure.
Although he is not showing it on the outside, on the inside he is beating himself up and wondering if he will ever be able to do anything right in your eyes.
Obviously, if he messes up big time, you need to call him on it. But choose your battles wisely, respond maturely and with patience, and the rest of the time, bite your tongue.
#2. Stop bitching about him behind his back.
Oooh, this one is super tricky, I know. Sometimes you just need to vent. But, here’s the thing:
If you get in the habit of complaining about him, then you are essentially training yourself to look for things to complain about. It kind of becomes its own vicious cycle.
Whereas the more you stay in a positive mindset, the easier it will be to look for the good things.
So, instead, train yourself to look for those good things – and suddenly they’ll be much easier to find.
A good way to do this, which works with the “no bitching at him” tip from above, is that when he does do something a little annoying, immediately think of something good he has done and try to understand him.
It will balance out the desire to store his mistake away to bitch about later, and it will also give what he has done some context.
Also, it is just plain disrespectful to talk about anyone behind their back and it is one biggest mistakes women make that destroys their relationship.
#3. Value who he is
This means no trying to change him, no wishing he was better, and no pushing him to do things he is not ready to do.
The more you do these things, the sooner he will come to realize that you don’t respect who he is right now in his life. No one wants to feel that way – especially a man, who craves respect.
When his faults make you consistently devalue him, then you are putting a power play into effect that is very dangerous for a relationship.
In essence, you are working under the “fact” that you are better than him, and that to be as good as you, and good FOR you, he must become more valuable.
So if you find yourself guilty of this particular habit, I think it may be time to evaluate the entire relationship.
Are you with the right man? Is what he has, or doesn’t have, or has or hasn’t done, so huge that you simply can’t live with it?
#4. Celebrate his wins.
I don’t care if it is because he finally got around to cutting the grass or because he was elected President of the United States – celebrate.
Appreciate him when he does good stuff. Let him know that you saw him work hard and accomplish his goal, and you will be a golden goddess in his eyes.
It can be as simple as a hug, or as grand as a swanky dinner out. You can write him a little note, or invite the family over for a toast.
How you celebrate his win is up to you; it is simply important that his win is acknowledged, and that the acknowledgment comes from you.
#5. Agree with him in public.
Now, clearly, if he says something you vehemently disagree with, then you don’t have to agree with him in public.
Just be as diplomatic as possible: “I am not sure I agree, but I love a man with strong opinions.”
However, if you do agree, don’t pull some power play by being contrary. Go ahead and agree with him.
The funny thing is, you have no idea how many women don’t do this simple thing! They will take the opposite side just to get under his skin – and for no good reason.
Or, rather, there is a reason, but it is relationship-based, and instead of discussing it like mature adults, the woman decides to just chip away at the man until he feels completely disrespected.
#6. Praise him in public.
If someone asks you how he is, don’t be shy about telling them all about his most recent accomplishment. And when he is with you, remember this one thing:
As much as men crave respect, they usually don’t toot their own horns.
So you will earn major, major points with him if you bring up a great thing that he did while he is standing there, or let someone know how proud you are of him.
#7. Allow him to do something – and then, with every ounce of your will, shut up while he is doing it.
It doesn’t have to be anything big; let him change the tap, or move a bookshelf, or change the oil in your car. It doesn’t matter what it is, really.
The important thing is that you leave him to do it on his own, without you interfering or telling him how to do it – or, worse, not knowing how to do it yourself, but still telling him that he is doing it wrong.
Even if he has to go back to the hardware store a couple times before he gets it right, bite your tongue and praise him when it is done.
This is such an easy way to show him respect; you have no idea. And, hey – at the end, your task will be done!
#8. Put yourself first more often than not.
Yes, ladies, it is time for yet another brutal truth: YOU are the only person
you will be with for the rest of your life.
Not him. Not your dog. Not your parents. Not your best friend. YOU, and
you alone, will be with you every day for the rest of your life.
Hopefully that’s going to be a nice, long time, so better treat yourself
right! This means that you need to make yourself a priority. Let’s break it
#9. Love yourself first.
As the old saying goes, if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? Well, never a truer word was spoken.
You first job in any relationship is to care and nurture the love affair you have with yourself.
Why is that? Well, you see, here’s the thing. When a person doesn’t love themselves, it’s like bad marketing.
I mean, think about an ad for a product. You never hear a commercial say, “You know what, our product’s just alright.
It’s really nothing special. It’s got its flaws, I don’t know if you’ve seen them, but there’s a lot that could be improved.
But, uh, hey – buy it anyway because maybe you could fix it yourself and then you will really love it!”
Who on earth would buy that product? No one
#10. Make yourself happy.
Love is a many splendid thing, so they say – so why is everyone so miserable when it comes to their relationships? As you should have guessed, I actually have the answer to that.
Well, I am not sure about everyone, but more often than not, for women the source of their unhappiness can be traced back to the fact that they look to their partners to make them happy, and their partners fail at that.
Some men fail at that because they’re jerks. But the overwhelming majority of men – and just people in general – don’t know how to make other people happy all the time.
First of all, it is impossible to do unless you are a mind reader. There is no way to know exactly what is going to make a person happy all the time.
The second reason why you shouldn’t look to him to be the source of your happiness is because that’s not his job.
This means that the responsibility falls to you, my dear. You are the only person who can make yourself happy. So, get on it!
This takes some actual, rational, conscious thought. What makes you happy? Think about it. Make a list if you have to.
The things that make you happy can be small, like wearing your favorite shoes; or big, like traveling to a new place every year.
No matter what it is, make a list of them, and tack it up somewhere you will see it all the time.
Then, try to make at least one of those things happen a day. Maybe you wear those favorite shoes; maybe you do a bit of trip research.
But know that while you are doing them, you are taking charge of your own happiness – and feel proud.
The other way to make yourself happy? Is this:
#11. Let everyone else come second.
Does this mean you have to be selfish? Well, maybe a little, but it doesn’t mean you need to step on the toes of everyone in your way in the race to get what you want.
Putting yourself first simply means that whatever decision you make should work for you, and be good for your wellbeing, before you think about how it may affect other people.
This simple rule has two benefits:
First, you will be happier, healthier, and you will probably live longer, too.
Secondly, you will be a better girlfriend, wife, and partner.
That’s because when you do the opposite of this advice – when you put everyone else’s needs and desires before your own.
It may make you feel good for a moment, but in the end all it does it make you unhappy and bitter.
Unhappy because you are not getting what you want out of life, and bitter because you give and give and give and no one is giving back.
So in looking out for yourself, you are not only making yourself happy, but you’re also contributing to a solid relationship. Another win-win!
I will stop here. I hope this 11 steps will help you truly understand what men want from women in relationship.
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