Have you ever wondered what your man think when he looks at you? Or what he tells his friends about you? Well, wonder no more, my friend! You are about to discover the inner workings of your man’s mind.
So without thinking too much join me in this amazing article to find out what your man think when he looks at you and what you can do to make him desire you and only you.
#1. What he thinks about you physically.
Men react to visual stimulation, much more so than women do. And, here’s a dirty little secret – they have what is called a “spank bank.”
I am not going to get too graphic here; but suffice it to say that a spank bank is a collection of mental images men keep in their minds and refer to when they pleasure themselves.
These images can be anything from entire scenes of movies to a glimpse of cleavage from a woman passing by. Believe me that's what men want the most in women but will never tell.
But nothing beats the real thing, so if you are in a relationship with a guy, even in the early stages, and want to make him addicted to you, then images of you will be first and foremost.
It’s not necessarily out of a desire to be “faithful” to you; it is simply that those images, and sensations, will be freshest and the most intense for him.
So, what we’re saying here is that when he thinks about you, his first thought is going to be your physical appearance before anything else, like what you said during a conversation or something you did for him.
The good news about this fact is two-fold. First, it is not unique to your man; this is a universal trait.
So there is zero mystery involved in what your man is thinking about in this regard.
And second, it could not be easier to keep topping up his spank bank so that he never runs out of those images.
What I mean is it is really important to make an effort to remain sexy in his eyes.
#2. The beginning of your RELATIONSHIP matters.
Think of it this way: At the early stages of a relationship – say, when you first kiss, or when you go out on your first date, or when you first make love – you are providing him with very, very potent images.
After all, you probably took a good long while to look your best for that date.
And your first sexual experience with him is a veritable treasure trove of new sensations So, these are going to be cherished images that he will keep for a long time.
#3. The intermediate and the MOST Vulnerable stages of your relationship.
Maybe you are still trying to get him to commit to you; maybe you have been with him for some time.
Either way, it can be easy not to make quite the effort you used to back when you were first trying to get him to want you and pay attention to you.
Here’s a tough question for you, then: How do images of you now compare with images of you then?
So What he think about you when he looks at you NOW?
Yikes. This is why, as I said in the very beginning, he needs you to satisfy his need for a woman who is sexy. So make the effort, and stay literally top of mind with him and keep him under control.
And, look, I know that sometimes you don’t want to look sexy or cute as a button when you’re just hanging out at home.
And chances are, he is probably in his own version of leisure wear as soon as possible, too.
But who said anything about being that way at home? This is also about, you know, DATING. Whenever you go out together, take that extra moment to look like it’s always your first date.
Even if it is just to an afternoon movie, or you are meeting up after a long day for a drink.
That first moment he sees you is a powerful one – even if he has already seen you that day.
Even if he saw you just before you headed in to go change! Every moment you appear in front of him after any kind of absence is an opportunity to pack a visual punch.
So, punch away! The single easiest way to get him addicted to you is to get him to crave that moment of seeing you enter, when you take his breath away every time.
Now, let’s move away from the physical aspect.
#4. What he thinks about you as a potential girlfriend.
If you were to ask a thousand men what they want in women, you’d get a lot of different answers – after all, they’re not robots, they’re men.
But I bet you’d never guess what the most common trait is among them. Is it beauty? Intelligence? Humor?
They do say those things, yes. But the absolute number one most common thing that men look for in a woman is kindness.
They actually use that word, “kind.” If they had to say it out loud they’d probably use the word “sweet,” but when asked to make a list, “kind” makes the top almost every time.
So, that being said, here is another hard question for you: Do you think that when your man thinks about you, he thinks about how kind you are?
There are many, many ways to show him this characteristic. And yet, we tend to be incredibly lazy when it comes to showing him.
One aspect of this trait is the kindness you show to other people. Are you patient with your elderly grandmother?
Do you let people in front of you in line? Are you quick to smooth over a potentially embarrassing situation?
Then, there is the kindness you show ABOUT other people. You see, all too often, a woman will be all sweetness and light in public – but then the moment she is in private, she will bitch about every single person she came across, sometimes in a particularly nasty way.
Guys can’t stand this. First, it is just plain negative, and that particular kind of negativity is supremely unattractive. Second, it makes you look like the worst kind of hypocrite – just so fake and awful.
#5. He wants to know how GROUNDED you are.
The other most common thing that men think about when they think about women is how grounded they are. I understand that “grounded” is kind of a catch-all phrase, so I will break it down for you.
One aspect of being grounded is the level of independence you have. He thinks about what you are doing in your life, more often than he lets on.
And he wants to be proud of you. He wants to be able to look at your own personal trajectory and see forward momentum.
If he is able to see that forward momentum, he will think of you in a positive way.
If he sees that you are stagnating – meaning that you don’t seem to have any interests, or that you have lost interest in things, or that you say you will start something but then don’t follow through – he is going to be turned off and think of you in a negative way.
#6. Always show him your BEST side.
So, take a moment to think about what you are showing him when it comes to your personal growth.
Are you practical about the things you are able to achieve? Do you let him know your progress on a project or goal?
If you are forced to take a step back, how quickly are you able to rebound and move forward again?
Remember you want to ensure you're the BEST for him or else he may show signs of confused feelings about you, whether to be with you or not.
Another aspect of being grounded is how down to earth you are. While men love a girl who has a sense of fun and whimsy, often a girl can make the mistake of taking it too far, and just becoming silly.
What does silly mean in this case? Well, it can mean a variety of things.
• High-maintenance. If a guy constantly has to wait for you to try on 55 outfits and get your hair and makeup just right, trust me – he is not thinking good things about you.
• Unrealistic. It’s fine to have hopes and dreams. But if you insist that your only goal is to be “rich and famous” then he simply is not going to take you seriously enough to consider you commitment material.
• Dramatic. Being down to earth means that you are able to see all sides of a situation, and react accordingly – not throw a tantrum like a four-year-old because of some imagined slight, or because you didn’t get your way.
• Immature. If he is thinking about making a commitment to you, he is thinking about the future. If he senses that you still have a lot of growing up to do – meaning, if you seem like a little girl who needs Daddy to do everything for her - he is not going to stick around until you decide to become an adult. He is going to move on and find an actual woman.
#7. He wants to see traits of HONESTY in you.
men want HONESTY in women believe it or not. This means that when men think about you, they are thinking about whether they can trust you.
So, you tell me - what does he really think about you in this regard? Have you shown your man that he can trust you?
There are several ways you can do this – and it is important that you do.
Letting him know that he can trust you takes care of both of those things. And, luckily, there are about a million opportunities for this.
Knowing that he can trust you pertains to your own behavior. And this is two-fold.
The first part of this is that he needs to know that he can trust you with other men.
This means that if you are finding that he is not giving you what you feel is the proper amount of attention, the solution is NOT to throw yourself at other men and hope he takes the bait.
How awkward would it be for your friends? How low and unloved would you feel?
What would you think about him as a potential long-term mate?
Whatever it is – and I assume it’s not a pretty picture - that is what he is thinking about you when you pull a stunt like that. So, knock it off.
If you don’t feel like he is paying enough attention to you, then think about why that is, and then work to fix the issues in your relationship. You don’t want to play that dangerous game.
#8. Last he should be able to trust your BEHAVIOR
Can he trust you in PUBLIC?
• Can he trust you to be respectful around his family?
• Can he trust you to be cool when hanging out with the gang?
• Can he trust you to be OK with him doing stuff on his own?
• Can he trust you to be able to handle a sticky situation?
As I said, there are so many ways, each and every day, to show him that he can trust you.
The last thing I want to say in this ARTICLE about what your man think when he looks at you is when in doubt, always remember that when he thinks of you, it is in the context of thinking about a lifetime with you.
If you want to be his girlfriend, show him what kind of a girlfriend you will be. If you want to be his wife, show him what kind of wife you can be.
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